I understand. It’s okay. Maybe go slower. Next time, if you really like the person you will WANT to talk on a daily basis. If you don’t want to talk often, then make sure to go slowly and don’t invest in jewelry, it will be a waste.
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hahaha, there is a genetic component in the behavior & traits of each human person that is passed on by our parents. I’m just saying my Chinese culture may not be a good fit for an Iranian woman. But who knows.
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That is correct. I will be wasting money on a woman who doesn’t accept my offer. I am definitely going abouts this the wrong way.
As an Asian too, I understand the cultural differences. So I get what you mean. But it’s not insurmountable.
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I know personally thaat romantic “rejection” can be the most painful and traumatising thing ever but, i would not give up on her. It doesnt have to be all or nothing. You guys talk every day so you must be close. Especially now that you made the gesture of this gift, she knows how much you must like her. Even if she didnt accept it i think it may have had the desired effect.
Give her some time to think about it. Maybe take a few days away to process your feelings, but i think maybe its best to keep the relationship going. It will be to her a sign of emotional maturity and strength. Ive heard of stories where the women has refused a date or something and then they end up married for 60 years
Dont let a missed shot make you want to quit your sport. Atleast you tried. Some people might criticise you and say it was a bad decision etc, who cares? We all miss shots. Point is accept it, learn from it and continue the game. You cant just quit basketball because you missed one long shot. You can still win the game.
I once bought a woman 1000 worth of flowers when she had a boyfriend and tried to send another dozen roses every week until she would give me a shot. She asked me to stop lol. I was really embarrassed but you know what. Someday we may meet again and that token may be worth its weight in gold.
Ive messaged ex’s and told them i still love them years after we broke up and gotten no response at all.
We all miss shots, its just part of the game. Noone scored 100% of the time. To quit now would be pride.
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I know in many middle eastern cultures, women are not allowed to accept jewelry from men, unless it is from their husbands. This might be true for her culture.
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Our cultures are very different @yinyang, it’s hard for me to say. I have to admit that most of what I know of your culture comes from watching too many wuxia films. In my own culture one does not give expensive gifts until a relationship is well underway.
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I will get over her. I just need time. But at that moment when she returned the gift. That same pain brought back flashbacks of the 1st rejection I experienced when I did a similar thing.
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This, I do not know. One reason she stated was that her mother would kill her if her mother were to find out about the bracelet.
Perhaps, but if I were to observe myself or some other Chinese man in the same situation. The gift would be an expression of, “please, I hope you like me because I like you”. or something to that effect.
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Someone bought me a beautiful ring once when I was young. I gave it back because I didn’t want to feel any obligation toward him. She probably didn’t feel comfortable accepting it, because she might not feel as close to you. Although you may have given it without any intentions.
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Why did you not want to feel any obligation toward him when that is not his intention. You basically rejected him.
How many dates did you go on before a gift?
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I would say probably paranoia. He did tell me it was not his intention to make me feel that way. I wasn’t attracted to him and thought I should be, to accept a gift like that.
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My line of thought if someone gets me gift right away is that they are trying to buy my love and trust. But for me that is only earned with getting to know them and having good exeperience together first.
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I wouldn’t wear that either.
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Zero. When getting to know a woman, I expect to meet her, her parents, her family and extended family.
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At least you told him straight up then you were not attracted to him. No point in wasting either of your time or his time. That’s the bottom line.
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It took a while before my gfs parents accepted me to be around. They are traditional chinese.
They just wanted know what family values i had and stuff. They like me a lot now 
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So her parents rejected you at first. Why did you keep on insisting if they refused you.