I have some weird sort of social anxiety where I’ll stop contacting my friends for a while and then I’ll talk and see them out of nowhere basically. This had been happening for a couple years now. At the moment my mental health is not good so, I just got out of the hospital and I feel wary of talking to them. I was supposed to go to a concert with some of them the day I went to hospital. Is anyone else like this?
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I’m very sorry about that.
You’re very lucky, I actually have no friends whatsoever. The only one I have lives overseas and everytime I talk to him he comes across to me as a bully who dislikes me.
I’ve been very stressed out about my life lately. I’m not completely socially withdrawn, i do like to go out every now and again (discomfort only happens when I’m really stressed out) but i would love it if i can meet someone. Especially a girl, that would be great (as asinine as that sounds). It’s not that important in the grand scheme of things I suppose but i would like it if i can date…I don’t know, maybe that’s stupid.
My brother just moved back home, but he doesn’t like spending time with me. Maybe it’s a good thing; even though I like him and we have the potential to get along, he’s the hipster type. He spends a lot of his time drinking and partying. That might be very bad for me.
My mom might retire in the next year or so; i might hang out with her if that happens.
I would trade having friends for having a proper fulfilling job, or maybe a really intresting hobby (that’s the basic truth of that). I actually have a masters degree., the problem is it’s a difficult proffession. Basically any job that requires a college degree is difficult. I’m intellectually up to it (I’m sure of that, i have worked before) but dealing with things can get difficult. Just simply being convincing in the interview is difficult. It has to be an afternoon interview for that. My parents hate waking me up. I take forever, and dad likes the mornings to be quiet so he concentrate on his law suit.
I’ve been doing a bit of reading, and i think i might be going through a mid-life crisis. I suppose for me it’s not really a quarter life crisis.
I’m not really depressed, but the psychiatrist i used to visit thought i might be schizo-affective. I’ve been diagnosed as schizophrenic since 2005. I also have borderline personality disorder. Anyway. That’s some of what’s going on in my mind…i think if I had a buddy I’d deal with these things better…that’s all.
But you’re very lucky…that you were going to a concerte is great…and that they’re open minded to stay friends with you despite any awkwardness you may have shown means they love you dearly…i wish you the best…you’re a better man than I.
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Getting a masters degree with a severe mental illness is impressive. I’m sorry about your friends situation. I know what it’s like having a brother who doesn’t want to spend time with you, although lately my brother’s been more friendly. And no, I’m not a better man than you, you have changed so much more than I have in life. I’ve only done a month of college so far and I dropped out after that. And that was my second attempt basically. Thank you for your words.
yeah I have phases like that too. Don’t make issues out of it, just do as you please. I am sure your friends will understand.
I have phases where I feel sick and depressed, and other phases when I feel like I can conquer the world.
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Do those phases last long for you though?
No actually, several days to a week and back, now since the medication increase I am having better days in general.
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I snap at people. Like mosty to my boyfriend at the time. Like they are really nice to me but i behave like they are doimg something bad to me. I even accuse. Im so sorry i do this. People are very confused by it. But im thinking maybe its not the right time to be with them.
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That’s perfect.
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I have a lot of problems with social anxiety and seem to need more cave time than other people. I like my friends, but I can’t hang with them too much or I will get annoyed that I am not having alone time. Right now, I haven’t been hanging out much with friends because of my family life taking up most of my time.
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I tend to isolate myself from people except hubby and my parents. I have a few friends that invite themselves over but I never invite them myself, I’m pretty much a loner, I hate those social functions hubby and i have to go to of his family. I never really visit my siblings either as they stay a distance away and I never really made the effort. I’m pretty poor on the socialising scale! I tend to be anxious in certain situations, like talking on the phone or eating with others.
I prefer walks in public places like shops and library and flea market or the beach etc. I like being around people but not so much talking to them, maybe only a bit.
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Sometimes it happens to me that I do not want to be with anybody because I feel bad and I hate that they see me badly. It is a mechanism of self-protection, to safeguard my image and with it my self-esteem. I try to be sociable, and I have friends with whom I feel more or less comfortable. But still, I feel that I pretend a role to measure up. That makes me think that maybe the friendship I have is not sincere, or maybe I’m not honest with myself. It will be that I do not coonfío altogether in the people and for that reason I have to pretend that I am “normal”.
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