I’m hyper aware of the judgement my weirdness would accrue and thus INCREDIBLY selective of whom I share it with. I’ve shared my struggles with literally one non-professional before, because she was dealing with mental issues herself, and she stopped being friends with me. So. I would prefer to just hide that from a partner unless things got really serious, in which case I’d feel obligated (and horrified) to share.
Also my hallucinations/delusions have pretty much turned me off to anything sexual ever. So there’s that too.
I think it’s because we have enough chatter, either in our head or talking to ourselves enough for two.
Not much room for another when we are so preoccupied with ourselves.
I generally avoid dating and stick with just friends with benefits because people dont want to date crazy and I dont want to fall in love again, it was the most irrational state I had ever been in. It wasn’t good when the person I was in love with was not quite in love with me, in fact I got dumped when I told them I was SZ. It led to an epic episode. We don’t need episodes. We don’t need love, we need sex. I know that sounds wrong but hey, it’s damn true.
But honestly, our social desirability is low on average, the average person with SZ does not function at the same level as a normal person. That’s just the average, though.
Oh how I would like to fall in love with someone. It has been over ten tears since I been with anyone. There was a large part of that ten years that I wasnt capable of being with someone…but now that I am doing better I would love to meet someone. Unfortunately, I just dont think its in the cards for me. I think i will always be a lone
I became ill at the age of 17. I was in a relationship then and because my mind was falling apart I broke up with him. Then the next two relationships I was in was because both men felt the need to “save me” from myself. The second of those men became my husband. We always have had a rocky marriage—not only because of me. But after 14 good years (mentally) I had a major episode a few years ago that lasted for three years. My husband stopped loving me then. since then we have co-existed. We’ve been married now for 25 years and now it’s pure misery. SZ’s are better off alone unless you can find an exceptional partner. Most people can’t handle it.
Because only 1% can understand what we’re talking about. I’m open to a relationship with a female psychologist, or someone w/sz. I don’t care if one can handle or accept it. I’m looking for an understanding and empathy, because at least for now it’s a huge influence in my life that I’m focused on understanding and improving my responses to.
Maybe not, but I doubt they’d be happy unless the subject was after co-dependant companionship, materialism, or vanity.
I was in a 5 year relationship with a sz. I love him more than anything. We were going to get married. Recently somethings changed and he’s changed and broke up with me and blocked me off of social networks. I would kill to have him back.
Mines kind of complicated was a girl (as there always is) We just went out a few time as friends was at the stage of wondering if there was more to relationship. Then she just died suddenly was about 2002. It was right after a very toxic relationship of someone I met in hospital. So didn’t want to rush into anything to fast. . So after she died I just focused on myself , lots of therapy, my work life took off etc.
Finally at around 2010. I thought it was time to start dating again. Was kind of chaotic with the girls in my life at the time. One girl who I had my heart on was Bipolar 2. We went out a few times taking things slow. Long story cut short. After being released from hospital she took her life. So at the moment very far from thinking of dating again.
My emotions to do with women are really screwed up atm Just being around someone that I have liked is very confusing. That’s my story anyway.
Forget about Karma,go to a church or place of interest to you to make some friends…if you like cricket go to play cricket together,if you like book go to a libery…I like football and believe in Jesus a little,I had went to a futsal court and know some people…next after this busy period I might want to go to the church a little too…
