Why do I talk dirty?

[anon82948922]

@LevelJ1

I havent been to a strip club in ages.

I used to DJ in a couple. LOL.

[LevelJ1]

@anon82948922

used to DJ in a couple. LOL

Not a bad view

[LilyoftheValley]

@anon67051439

How do i fix those insecurities

Spend time everyday finding things that are positive about yourself, even if they’re really small, and when you find things you don’t like about yourself, come up with things you can do towards changing those things even if it’s really small steps.

It’s not something that will change overnight. It takes time. And it takes effort. But not Herculean effort. Just work towards it a little bit at a time.

Read examples of positive affirmations online. Find things that are true about yourself in them. Work towards the things you don’t think are true.

Don’t overwhelm yourself. It’s not a race, and you don’t have to be perfect - no one is.

[LevelJ1]

@LilyoftheValley

low self esteem

The thing about affirmations and all that jazz is it doesnt work for low self esteem. It only works for confident people.
I think the intention people have with affirmations is to say it until you believe it but your subconcious doesnt believe it and knows its not true so you end up feeling worse.

@anon67051439 you should just practice accepting your self as you are flaws and all just like everyone of us has our own flaws.

You can remind yourself you dont need to show off in front of your friends because they are already your friends. They chose to hang out with you regardless if you decide to show off your not. And hey sometimes we all say stupid ■■■■ when were hanging out with buddies.

So i think the key is first accept we are all flawed human beings with different personalities and thats ok! And being able to recognize and have a laugh at that helps you be more comfortable with yourself too.

[LilyoftheValley]

@LevelJ1

t only works for confident people.

I’m not a confident person and it has been helping me. The key is to make the statements true for you

For example, I want to get better mental health wise. so instead of saying “I am getting better everyday”. I say “ if I work at it every day, I’ll get better”.

[Andrey]

Unless you have Tourette’s, you should be able to control whatever you’re about to say.

Are you telling us that you can’t refrain? Or that you could, but you won’t cause you enjoy talking dirty?

Per se it’s not a problem unless you’re a public speaker or a diplomat.

@LilyoftheValley made a good point above. Try to develop your other personality facets, besides sexuality. As you grow more confident, your attention and speech will naturally shift towards other topics.