I dunno, being nice all the time isn’t an answer, what do you think?
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Being nice all the time will make you into a murderer imo
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Kinda yeah, because it is living in a lie that grows and grows.
Yeah, I can get caught up in that. I know I need to be more assertive, and less about pleasing others
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Yeah snd youll keep getting fcked over by life and be bottling it up
But this raises the question
Should you bottle it up or lash out?
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That is the challenge, finding the middle ground. Asserting yourself, without being aggressive. I have been working on it for quite a while now, but I still get enraged sometimes
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I think this is exactly what you and i should do, love you my man 
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Yeah, it has been on my mind also, that’s pretty common in Sz I think.
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Im worried about it. I dont want to murder anybody
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I proudly proclaim that I’m not nice to everyone!
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I don’t know if it’s the same for you, but I have fantasized several times about hurting someone physically, who really f*** with me. What I have discovered though, is that I am not violent, and I would never act out on those thoughts
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I’m really nice, especially to people who are over my meds and allergy shots. Or people making my food, at a restaurant. Waiters and such deserve respect, but I hate when they’re just super awful and I just gotta suck up to them.
There’s this one specific nurse, at the allergy clinic, who pisses me off, sometimes. But I’m always nice, because she’s injecting me with my allergens! What if I piss her off, and then she gives me too much, on purpose!!? 
In other situations, I try to stick up for myself. Although, I didn’t start sticking up for myself until this year!! Before 2021, I let people use me, abuse me, and just generally mistreat me. But, one day I snapped! And now I take no s***.
Except people who might kill me or spit in my food. Even if they’re awful and/or rude, I gotta be nice to them. 
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@anon47167357 You’ll be fine, just be what is needed for you I guess.
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I dont need much for myself. I have no one to impress and im trying to dissolve my ego but it is proving hard because im still young. I know when i get older though it will be totally gone
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Well, just take it easy on yourself, and take the advice you liked by @Cragger 
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I worry about this. I am like you and i never acted on the thoughts. Does that mean im not violent or am i violent for having the thoughts?
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Most of us have violent thoughts sometimes, it’s part of the being a human.
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I think there’s still a big gap there between imagining doing something to someone, and actually following through.
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I had to learn that it’s okay to be angry towards people :o
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I am not that nice.
Here and in my life.
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