I am curious about this age because is one where one is finding himself and lets go of the old version of himself molded by parents and family and friends.
They start to find what makes them who they are, what drives them, what excites them, what makes them happy, what are theyre motivations.
It’s also a time of confusion as a lot of things are now on their shoulders and they have to deal with them alone, with little help… just stories from others to inspire them
I was travelling the world and at university. But I also Became unwell in my twenties.
Did that stop you from travelling?
No it was one reason I travelled. I was manic.
Your 20’s will make or break the rest of your life. I broke.
To bad you were manic at the time… traveling sounds like something must-to-do… did you finish university?
Me too. But recovering gradually. I hope you are better than you were in your twenties now.
Thanks @Qwerty …
I can see where you’re coming from. It is indeed a decisive age
Yes I finished university but had to get letteRs from my doctors explaining why I was handing things in late and my performance was bad. I also had to resist exams. I actually failed my final exam but comletes the
Course. I came out with a DipHE instead of my degree. I am deeply ashamed
You did a good job finishing. I am in college, I don’t like it… I could broke my 20s and quit or make my 30s and stay…
Finished the cours but cam out with a DipHE
My twenties were great. I lived with my girlfriend at the time. She was a beautiful narcissist. I graduated college (nuclear medicine) and made good money. I went out a lot and was social. Just recently I graduated with another degree; Last year, but only worked in that profession 3 months before having a nervous breakdown (nursing) Now I’m a hot mess. I had to move back home so I could pay off debts (expected to take 2 years) plus I’m in no condition to be alone. Some days I can barely get out of bed. Living with sz is new to me. It sucks.
What’s a dippee?
I was living a somewhat unbound, free and adventurous life. I had several boyfriends and flings (not at the same time) and was rather irresponsible, partied, used alcohol and experimented a bit with drugs, made dangerous, impulsive and adventurous travels abroad for long periods, did rock climbing and alpinism, hitchhiked. I studied, lived in dorms, had friends and acquaintances, worked a bit to pay my studies, but mostly borrowed money for it. Eventually I found a job, but I never really settled down.
Until… I got pregnant, unplanned, at 28, from my unreliable ex-boyfriend, while I was living in a caravan on a campsite.
That sort of changed the whole thing. I kept my job, arranged a good house, sorted out everything to make a good life with my son, sought help with my network of friends and family, loved my son lots and lots when he was born.
But…my ex was threatening and abusive and I crashed. I spend the last bit of my twenties fighting in court to protect my son and fighting in hospital against insanity - PTSD, psychosis. That was really a lot less fun than all the wild adventures, but a result of them, I guess.
Going back, I would have told my old self to take care of myself, be a bit more responsible, seek out what was truly valuable and find a kind and reliable boyfriend, instead of some wildly passionate abusive creep. And be a bit more careful - I love my son, but children are supposed to be born in stable and loving families.
Diploma of Higher Education
Do you did everything right on your twenties. But the sz manage to mess with you later?
So you had a adventurous 20s wich led to your child and them you settle down?
Yeah in my twenties I believed I could conquer anything. I had no pitfalls or never experienced the downs of life so I was very optimistic that’s what drove my work ethic and drive to go out around town. The money was flowing in and that made life comfortable. Later I suffered setbacks and had to learn about dealing with loss and how to cope when you lose everything. But it was a nice ride.
See, you did those things when you were younger you can do them again bevause now that you know your limitation and you’re older.
Mostly will disagree with me and say older means harder to achieve, but that’s rubbish. It’s never to late to start over