I have been being told lately that everything I have to complain about is a “normal, even very human…feeling/thought/reaction/whathaveyou” Every one of my complaints is met with the comment “Well don’t you think that might be normal?”
I suppose in most circumstances this would be reassuring but how I see it is that while yes what I am still struggling with may be normal problems… they are normal problems on steroids if you will. If they are leaving me crippled and barely able to move on in life what makes them so damn normal?
Normal they may be but I need help, input, therapy even for these “normal” issues rather than to be simply told they are normal.
I am right there with you. I know they mean well , but… I have a friend that I finally told all of my issues to and she says “Maybe it’s just postpartum depression.” And she repeats this a lot which would be fine, but, she already knows that I have been hallucinating and having delusions since before either of my children were thought of!
Sometimes I will go to my therapist and tell her my concerns or worries or whatever … many times she will respond by telling me that a lot of people who are not diagnosed with a mental illness have the same issues.
Yes even neurotypicals will, worry, complain, have fears, experience anger or frustration - its just that it may be a bit more intense and chronic with me and many others who have a severe mental illness
That is sort of the boat I’m in. Things are waking up… bubbling up… my mind is starting to let go of some of the past… and it’s causing me a lot of guilt and grief.
I get told by a few that it’s “normal”
But I have to remind them… I don’t know how to handle normal. It’s all new to me… and I have no idea…
I think people who know me… know me well enough to realize you can’t just say “that’s normal” and leave it at that.
Good luck and maybe tell people just what you said here… Normal it may be but…