I’ve been thinking lately about the yin and the yang a lot actually!!. My therapist told me “you are 100% guy” when we brought up masculinity and femininity. But I told her “i’m not 100%” and then I went to explain why some femininity is good. And I gave her an example of someone who is more masculine than me and he has negative traits in areas that my feminine traits take over and make me more “balanced” I guess… But maybe it is my masculinity that makes me willing to display these feminine traits…I thought afterwards. So in a way I am 100% guy, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have the YIN of the YANG. I dunno I’m confused now.
I told her that some experiences I did in the past gets you more in touch with your feminine side. And I wasn’t trying to impress anyone when saying i’m “in touch” with my feminine traits, even if I’m “100% guy” like she said. More like trying to impress myself… What do you think about all this???
Femininity vs. masculinity…I think I am fairly nurturing and intuitive which are feminine traits.
I would say I’m mostly feminine, however I can be masculine as well. I go through phases. I think of gender more as a spectrum, and I’m all over the place.
I have trouble with this one… if you go by egypts model i would be about 60 40… but modern humans muddy this up so bad… we live in a patriarchal system… so some of the traits have been moved to suit the system…
The goal of the old way was to try and balance… to reach a better understanding… so when in a leadership position you wernt just an asshat…
I like to be as feminine as humanly possible but I think I do have some masculine traits (looking from a very traditional perspective of course, I think these are set by society in the end. I don’t think this should be categorized like that).
I like to be independent, do my own thing, I hate having a boss telling me what to do, I rarely ask for help.
If I like someone, I take initiative, I always ask for what I want and share my opinions with others.
At the same time, I like wearing very feminine clothes, makeup, do artistic projects etc. have long hair, and other so called girly things.
Women ruled too. The feminine and masculine traits were not gender exclusive. Its more like with all traits you would be apt to handle any situation fairly… With only one side or the other you were a work in progress. The goal was wisdom… the asshattery stems from disregarding one side as weakness… has nothing to do with gender roles or manlyness…
I guess in matriarchal systems of ancient Europe, the girls were like care givers and if they couldn’t deliver, they killed them.
Apparently it’s different in some places out east that still have matriarchal systems (according to my communications teacher). I guess they have girls who are the ones to take action first and lead the guys. The guys are still responsible for providing their girls with resources though.
Also, nobody ever says the word “no”, everything has to be answered with a “yes” even if you don’t mean it. I guess my teacher was supposed to be somewhere and asked if they were meeting at “x” o’clock and the person said yes. So when he got there, everything was already over lol
I like to think as an nonbinary person that my masculinity and femininity are decently balanced. But I always have my doubts about if I appear as more one than the other. Tbh I think feminine vs masculine traits is kinda dumb gender roles and such are a social construct so really I think they’re all just traits cause we’re all people.
I’m, erh… Both. People keep telling me I’m “one of the guys”, but on the other hand, I have long hair, big boobs, and I sometimes wear feminine clothes.
I’m very much like a guy when it comes to relationships and emotional thing with other people. For an example, I don’t want to guess things and I don’t take hints. I also think a too high need for affection/confirmation is offputting.
But I’m like a woman when it comes to feelings. I don’t mind communicating them and asking others to do the same.
I agree with those who say that the stereotypes of what is female and what is male beahavior are a bit redundant, but I can’t help but think there might be some truth behind the fictions.
For an example, men tend to be more instinctive, while women seem to be more emotional.
I think I am too feminine to the point of being dysfunctional. It is the reason I do not have a career and I work in a bakery. I am not a strong, independent, assertive, self sufficient woman as modern women are to be. I am even weak…
When I was the best worker unloading trucks for three years I was masculine. When I got fired from Macy’s after three weeks because I couldn’t figure out price tags on clothes it was a little feminine. But I bounced back strong.
I’m probably 50/50 and the guys I’ve been with were 50/50. I’m so used to nurturing guys I don’t see that as a feminine trait, just a good human trait.
I find myself behaving like my father - an impatient temper that gets excused as the result of testosterone. Since I’m female, I gotta say it’s neither male nor female, just a weakness.
Are you saying that it’s socially convenient or politically expedient? What I mean is that you find more social success from the way you are, and you attribute that to being feminine, or do you find it more expedient to be limber in how you portray or image for political purposes while it’s not really what you are.
I find that I do no one any favors for being anything other than a man or masculine because I am not a woman. The same is true of being stupid. The reason why is because people have to socially identify with me, and if I’m being stupid, then that becomes much more risky to how they appear to other people. That means that I’m being socially incompetent, and therefore rejection. The rejection eventually wears on you, and it costs you in the long run as a bad and long standing reputation as being stupid. It’s the same as being useless, and being socially acquireable is the same as hiring someone. Someone hires because they need someone, and that is what is the case in social reality.
If I am a man, and I am not masculine, then I am not “hireable.” This presents a problem for my life and anyone that depends on me over the ages.
Women like men, and if they like women, then I’m not in. But women that like men will like me, and I’m here for them in this world. It goes the same the other way around. Women that like men are women I like, and if they were masculine they’d like women, and that is the end of it for me.
I tend to view myself as the gentle might of a horse who is benevolent to the community hauling like a mule and saving like a Saint Bernard who saves the people lost and dying in the snows while there’s a tenacious wild bobcat in me that cannot be cornered, caged, and so forth that cannot even tame down around anyone but a very feminine woman that has gracious talent.
Workhorse is always boring, and people are rarely in danger or at risk in their lives, but I make a great roommate, keep the law of the home…you know. What men fellas are up to.
