You call him worthless. Because he isn’t planning a life.
I’d tell him to get a life.
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Damn, that’s pretty harsh.
Note to self, dont die for anybody.
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and the death of a suitor isn’t?
Yeah its harsh, but if its my life or a loved one’s life I’d give up my life. Theres plenty of people I’d die for, or at least suffer greatly for.
I wouldnt die for anybody just to die, but I’d sacrifice my life if it meant saving a loved one such as my niece or nephew.
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One of my favourite songs is about that !
“I can’t believe i ever said that i would die for you
…
I want to live”
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Saying that you’d die for someone isn’t indicative of a lack of direction. Quite the opposite, actually, because you can’t really give up a life that’s not being lived. Saying you’ll give your life for someone is like the ultimate declaration of love, not because your life is worth nothing, but because it’s worth everything.
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Well said @Sardonic!
I would say, “Thank you. I hope you never have to.”
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I disagree, because he is not “worth everything” at all once he is dead. He is then only a memory.
To you, maybe, but it’s not about you. The value of such a gift is not determined by how valuable it is to the receiver, but how much it cost the giver. His life would be worth everything to him, and in that sense, such a man would be giving you his everything.
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But you would have nothing.
He’s willing to die. It doesn’t mean it will happen but if you really cared for a man and he cared for you wouldn’t you want someone to protect you and your kids? Wouldn’t you want to feel safe and protected in this world? I mean everyday life is boring and uneventful and it’s not like there’s a fight breaking out on every corner every day. But if you had kids and you were a family wouldn’t you feel secure knowing your husband would be willing to stick up for you both verbally and physically against anybody in this crazy world?
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Damn, you would still be alive because of his actions. You should be thankful every day of the rest your life because you are only still alive because of his actions. This whole thread is just a theoretical, hypothetical situation but you sound so disrespectful. Maybe you are saying you don’t deserve someone who cares so much for you that he would make the ultimate sacrifice and give his life so you could have yours.
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I’d think that’s amazing. I’d tell him I’m not so sure that I’d die for anyone except my own child. But, if he’d die for me, I would consider that he loved me with the highest love.
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True, hypothetical. Maybe I should ask what the situation would be that would cause his death? What situation would make me alive only because he died. Did he throw himself in front of an assailant?
No, you would have your life…
Do you feel that your life is worth nothing?
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Maybe you go somewhere at night, maybe some thugs with guns or knives try to rob you or maybe they just attack you for no reason and he dies trying to protect you. Maybe you’re on a camping trip and some wild animal like a bear or a mountain lion attacks you and he fights the animal off to protect you but he dies from his wounds. Maybe a fire starts in your home and you get stuck in the bathroom. Maybe he can run out of the house and save himself but instead he comes back through the flames and rescues you but he gets burned badly in the process and inhales so much smoke that he dies.
People die all the time protecting other people.
And there’s a million other things that go on in life where someone risks there lives or put themselves in danger to protect their family.
My dad was like that. When I was growing up I always saw my father as the civilized provider who goes to work and comes home and usually sits and watches TV all evening or my mom and him would go to parties at our church friends houses and sip wine and talk about politics or grandchildren.
But as I got a little older I learned the other side of him. Like when I was in my twenties he was at the grocery store and some middle aged bully started browbeating the shy, young woman cashier over a mistake and my dad stepped in and stuck up for her and yelled at the bully until he slunk away.
Or the time when I was 18 and my boss threatened to kill me and the police wouldn’t do anything so my dad went to the business himself and told the guy if anything happened to me my dad would f*ck him up.
Or I learned from my sister just about a month ago when we were discussing my father she told me that when she was in high school and going to high school parties my dad told her if anyone got too fresh with her or tried to hurt her to call him whatever the situation was, my dad would come and help her. I never knew that. And the list goes on. I never knew that side of him. Wouldn’t you want a husband like that?
He didn’t have to lay his life on the line in those situations (or maybe he did) but he sure put himself at risk. I mean he had lots more going for him besides just protecting us; he had a number of good qualities and he stepped up to the plate when I became schizophrenic and did evrything he could do to support me and help me. But situations like those happen more than you would think.
And you may argue that incidents like that are not common but all it takes is one time when a real threat occurs that could be a matter of life or death and you would want someone to protect you.
Yeah, a life and death situation might be rare for the average person but it’s nice to have someone who you know you can depend on to protect you in life’s potentially dangerous situations.
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I stand corrected. Not all men are wimps.
And you’re a fine example of womanhood.
ive always felt like i may be a bad person because theres no one i would die for, really its just unrealistic id never tell anyone that i would, there are people i really care about and would do alot for but death, nope not happening, maybe when im really old i might think differently like if i have children or something