In comparison to leaving ur partner for a new partner who is more compatible and hotter, at a later time.
I have to believe that there’s something special about sticking with a partner, if content with one another, as opposed to leaving every time some1 more Compatable, hotter, comes along?
it depends on how truly happy you are with who you are currently with…there will always be hotter ppl…have to get used to it…it takes both ppl to want monogamy.
i chose security. trust someone got my back.
open relationships create weaker bonds.
as a young couple, before we discussed open relationships etc.
its how we decided on monogamy.
In what way are they weaker bonds?
No worries if its a sensitive topic.
definitely a personal opinion. because i’m possessive and jealous type.
i would not be invested.
but the internet says what i said is not true about weaker bonds.
Yea maybe that’s just because monogamy is meant for you.
also cheating is not a deal breaker if it was a mistake.
sex is a human act and not always a loving act.
If I know the person like I do my partner truly loves me, i can and did forgive.
a serial cheater is not okay with me.
I think I will never have a partner. I am very afraid of infidelity.
It would be very hard for me to forgive someone who cheated on me, unless the person was not in control of their actions I see no excuse.
Yea, I find it hard to Seperate the sex as a human physical act, from love. But I understand what you’re saying. I guess? Sex is often just a physical thing. An animal thing. I still find the idea of him wanting to fuk other women difficult to accept even tho I know it’s normal urge or desire. Especially if it’s a friend of his. This is all hypothetical btw.
When love enters the equation, it overrules “hotter” and “more compatible “.
It’s important to create boundaries with these hot women so that he doesn’t go down that slippery slope? Likewise for me.
Like to set boundaries together?
Honestly, I shouldn’t have to set boundaries with my partner if we’re already in a closed relationship in the first place.
But when I say more Compatable I mean that maybe he, or me (all hypothetical) falls deeper in love with someone else and click even better, at a later stage, than with the partner.
You can be in Lov with more than 1 person at once, or? Idk.
What does love mean to you?
what about in a situation you are in a monogomous relationship and there is true love in the relationship.
but one person for whatever reason “isn’t a serial cheater”. The person that cheat really honestly believed they messed up and will do anything even giving up prvacy to get back trust.
would it be worth throwing away the relationship that for the most part full of love, and then what are the chances of finding love ever again if everything else was good exept that one mistake.
To me, love is an action and a choice.
Everyday I choose my husband.
Everyday I show him love through my actions.
Everyday I commit to him.
I brought it up for him because I struggle with intimacy. He doesn’t want to. I don’t know how I’d feel about it anymore if emotions were involved then I’d leave.
I feel too betrayed. If he were to cheat on me. Because if I were to accept that I’d forgive him if it happened, I’d be scared all my life, anticipating he might do it, because he knows I’d forgive him.
Idk, but it just seems, too painful to forgive that.
Wat difference does it then make, if he cheats again?
Some ppl make mistakes more than once but really don’t mean it, either times.
That’s beautiful Coco xxx
If someone genuinely feel bad about cheating on me, I probably would end up forgiving them but probably never have a relationship again with them. I like to see it as cheating on exam in school, you typically get a zero on the assignment regardless of how guilty or remorsal feel about getting caught cheating so the consequences is you failing the exam now you still have a chance to bounce back if you study and learn from the mistakes from your previous exam, which in this case means a new relationship with someone else.