I was giving them about four rides a day and helping them with eggs and bread and soda pops. then yesterday they said they don’t have a washer anymore and could they do their laundry at my house…at first I said yes, but after I picked up the wife at dollar general and her son they were talking to a toothless older looking woman…rough drug folk I could tell…she said “well I will come by the house tonight”…so they have friends that are meth heads…the husband of the family kept talking about how he would only smoke pot but no meth over and over…like he was waiting for me to say I wanted crank. my take on it anyways. so I let them go on texting a goodbye to them. they don’t understand. but they really pushed on me when I said I was willing to help them. too much drama. no sir…do you think I did the right thing?
Yes… you did the right thing… meth is an evil god who consumes its followers… thats all they care about…most of them are thieves… to support their habit… the drama was why i left town… just steer clear of them… they cant be helped until the start to help themselves…
Plus they may have drugs or pipes on them when their riding in your car…
Yes. I posted a few days ago about a neighbour. Never saw her in over a year but wanted my help with her tablet. Doesn’t bother to ask how we are. She came once and then again and again. I decided to put my health first I’m stressed enough doing my own work as it is.
I think you did what you felt was best and that’s completely alright. You also do not need that kind of influence I know yourre not a teen but it’s easy to get tempted whatever your age and no matter how wise you are.
I had to part ways with this couple I knew. They were good people but they consorted with bad people. Too much hassle.
You did the right thing. Sometimes you have to look out for #1. In my experience, drugs and negative drama go hand in hand. Wherever there’s drugs, eventually there’s going to be collateral trouble.
It was good of you to help, but if you are like me, you are not in the position to be helping people with money and rides for long periods. If you had not cut them off they would have asked you for rides and money forever. Four rides a day is outrageous and inconsiderate of them to allow you do that. I’m guessing you liked these people but that’s not enough to let them intrude in your life. There’s nothing to feel guilty about, you helped them out for awhile but it didn’t work out.
wow, thanks everybody… @77nick77 thanks nick…you explain it just like I needed to hear…I felt bad until I read your post…I’m a big giver and they ran with it there for about a week…I’m exhausted. time to quit.
Asking to do their laundry at your house?? That’s ridiculous! Glad you put a stop to this. They were taking advantage of your big heart in my opinion.
yeah @PatrickT the light turned on in my head when they asked too…but the meth head friends and talk all the time…no, they were preying on my kindess…don’t throw your pearls to swine lest they be trampled underfoot…the bible says.
@jukebox don’t give up on them. Try to help them become more functional.
Remember, the most troubled people/households are in need of help.
Try to help them, to be a coach to them to help them rebuild their lives.
You can also help them with concrete things if you can.
If I saw a troubled household and was in a position to help, I would definitely try.
I urge you not to give up on them so quickly.
@Erez_Shmerling I am scared of meth heads…they are desperate people and I believe demon possessed. I cannot hang with it…it blows my mind with anxiety and fear…I was foolish to try and help…they need everything I have and I am afraid that they were planning to try and move in with me and my girlfriend.
It’s for you to decide mate. I only give advice but you know better.
If you feel it’s too much for you it’s OK.
thanks man…yes, I simply cannot handle it anymore…
Those people were probably beyond help. They would have taken advantage of every good thing you did for them. They’re needy too. If you let them do laundry at your house the next thing would probably be them wanting you to chauffer them all over town. Then they’d want you to go to the grocery store with them and buy them their groceries. There would be no end of the things they would want you to do for them. If they want your help give them the number of the Department of Human Services. They have more resources to handle people like this.
@crimby the first day I gave them a ride the son was pushing a mower across town to come mow my lawn in the middle of the day…you know crimby how hot it’s been…I met the son halfway when the father told me he was walking towards my house…after finally figuring out to let down the back seat we fit his mower in my car and he thanked me. I felt immediate duty to help this family…the father was walking behind his son with wrenches to tighten the wheel on the mower so we went and got him too. after that we just kind of escalated…the first day after he called me at 9 30 am ( I sleep in) to take him to mcdonalds…I should have known after that what I was in for…thanks crimby for making me feel better.
You did the right thing @jukebox.
People will take advantage of your kindness.
Enough is Enough!
Did they ever give you a gift to say thank you?
Depending on what kind of relationship you have it can be common to buy a thank you gift to someone who has helped out a lot with rides and use of washing machine etc.
Good to not get involved with drugs and drama I think.
Meth is a hell of a drug. Best to give it, and people using it, a wide berth.