Do you get paranoid and insecure when you post and no one replies…? As though you are not liked or the non replies are telling you you’ve done something wrong?
Had a post deleted because the lack of replies was getting to me. I could see that at the time 19 people had viewed the post.
I sometimes wonder whether my forum interactions are only marginally better than my off line interactions and this explains why across forums I have a long list of unanswered, or only a few replies , threads.
It kind of tells me that there is something seriously wrong with me as a person and reaffirms the depth of my social interaction problems.
At the moment as often happens in situations like this I’m feeling very insecure and paranoid. Getting internal messages that when it comes down to it I’ll always be an outsider .
I read and enjoy all of your posts, but, most of your posts are news related, and I tend to be afraid to voice my opinion on matters that I am not VERY familiar with. I will make a point to like when I enjoy them now. I hadn’t stopped to think you might feel that way.
I often feel the same way, as if I am being ignored on the forums. But I know this isn’t the case. I am sure no one is purposefully ignoring me. And I don’t think you are an outsider.
Oh, I forgot to put how I relate! I feel the same way! I even debate leaving forums for this reason! I feel the same way in public. My little girl is in gymnastics, so, when she goes to practice, I feel like the other moms want me to leave!
its difficult to answer that but i don’t think you are doing anything wrong, i think a lot of what you post is very interesting but then i can’t read everything, i like your replies to certain posts as well and i think i might have liked one of your posts at some point, idk what you can do to get more replies and views all i know is that like yourself i feel really bad if someone doesn’t reply you start to think its something you have done like you say.
The relatively few replies to news related posts I understand and the likes are of course nice but not essential,there has only ever been one forum where I have sometimes got quite a few replies to such posts .
It is the fact that across forums I have quite a high ratio of non news posts that get no or few replies that gets to me.
Been told many times I should make more non news posts -personal/small talk(which I find difficult especially chit chat/small talk posts) but then when I do I often get few replies or none.
Maybe there’s a special technique to it all that a lot of people naturally have but that I don’t.
I know it has to be something to do with me because it’s a recurring problem.
I often read posts, but I do not read long posts, because I can not concentrate so much. I am glad so many people have replied to my postings and I have got many hearts. I did some good things today, in the past one day I have slept 13 hours, my record, but I like this song:
Glad you’ve had a good day.
Perhaps it is because you post so much news related that people see you as being distant. It’s hard to be chit chatting on a forum, but light posts might make you more approachable. Funny news perhaps to start? Light hearted questions etc.
I’m not good at funny/light posts. I don’t do jokes like some here unless it’s repeating a joke that I saw somewhere but I don’t come across many of those.
It happens to everyone and it happens for many reasons.
It could be the time of day, the forum slows down at times and even when it picks up, posts that have been there a while have a less likely chance of getting a reply.
It could be a post that doesn’t stand out as one that needs replies. Opinion pieces and life experiences are like this. Posts in the form of a question get many more replies on the forum.
Sometimes people just can’t relate to a post so they tend to not reply. If you look around the forum you’ll see that people usually reply in one of two ways, they either give support to someone struggling, or they share their experience.
I could go on, but my point is that it happens to everyone from time to time and that it has nothing to do with who you are as a person.
It’s understandable, you are who you are! Feel free to pm me sometime though! Sometimes it’s easier one on one.
@firemonkey I always like your posts, I very often find them very informative and interesting- I do know that certain posts are more popular, especially the ones related to things others can relate to like certain symptoms or situations - Sometimes people respond to posts that may seem trivial or non appealing to me, but for some reason others may relate to it - I dont think it has anything to do with how ‘popular’ someone is - the old site was kind of cliquish this site is more varied - there seems to be a lot of strong minded individuals here
The post wasn’t framed as a question but it was one where I said things that I’d been doing. that had resulted in paranoia. I hoped for some replies but guess people thought it was a silly post… Hence the lack of replies .
Oh, I remember that! I try to stay out of paranoia posts, I trigger.
I guess no one could relate to compulsively doing something out of the blue ie making up silly songs about the devil and then getting paranoid he was real and out to get you because you were being disrespectful.
I guess doing things and getting paranoid about the consequences doesn’t fit in.
I buy coffee and think my husband is mad at me! Does that count?
To be honest with you, this post was a bit of a trigger for me, maybe some felt that it was a bit triggering? I just posted something about remembering your first rated R movie, so far very few people responded, maybe I can relate to this but others can’t relate to it - I dont know
@firemonkey
I try to answer every post I look at. Unless I don’t know how to answer, which is rare. But I love everyone on these forums, you guys are my main support through these issues. I try to answer every post i know HOW to answer too. I am sorry if I made you feel bad in any way.