Trying to understand my experiences

There is a drop down box for the category, I picked the one that said, “or who think they might have schizophrenia” since I am not sure if I have it or not. I am very confused about what is wrong with me even though I have done a lot of reading and have been to see multiple professionals over the years. I guess I am wondering if anyone here can relate to what I experience or feels comfortable sharing about that.

The first thing that makes it hard to figure out is that mental illness runs in my family, we have had schizophrenia, manic depression, eating disorders, anxiety disorders and more. So there is a possible genetic risk. But then also because I am the first generation to try to get to help, a lot of people in my family abused each other especially their children, and I was abused, too. My father had paranoia and rage problems and could really violent and destructive, but he would never get help, and then he became homeless so we would try to get him into rehab for alcoholism but he always leaves and we can’t find him. One time when I was a teenager he rented a frontloader from the Amish (his story, I don’t think the Amish rent frontloaders) and used it to destroy the back yard. So I think he may have had some sort of illness. So anyway it is hard to tell if some symptoms are trauma or mental illness.

At first growing up I just symptoms like depression and anxiety. After I graduated from high school the anxiety became very terrible and I had to drop out of college because I would often hide in places when I was supposed to be in class. I tried to work but the only reason I held down my job was because a manager gave me special treatment (which I feel bad about but it is the truth). I had a hard time focusing on anything and also could not stop thinking about things that scared me like the government. I became very scared that everyone was going to be put in FEMA camps and killed, so I spent a lot of time at work researching this online. I was supposed to call our vendors but I was afraid to talk to people on the phone. I also didn’t dress right or shower, but I didn’t realize, and it turned out people were talking about it behind my back and I was very embarrassed and depressed when I found out.

Everything came to a head when I got into a huge fight with my mother and her husband about the FEMA camps. I didn’t mean to but I completely freaked out and was screaming at them, but it was because I loved them and was scared for them, and they wouldn’t take me seriously. They thought I was trying to be mean so we all wound up screaming at each other like it was a huge fight and it was terrible. But at some point maybe months later I did realize that I had been too paranoid and I let go off those thoughts.

This is an example of what I experience. It comes and goes, and I am eventually able to see that I was being irrational. It ruins my life, though. The worst time happened last year when I started getting conversations in my mind with entities (I don’t know what they actually are). On one hand I knew that they were not real, but they just felt real. Still I would talk with them, it felt like having friends in a way, but they became problematic and unpleasant. And eventually I guess I had lost my mind or something, my apartment room was filthy and I wasn’t showering and I didn’t understand why because I hadn’t really noticed, until my roommate who owned the place gave me a 30 days notice to get out because of the way I was. The conversations in my mind became more intense and we came up with a plan, we fled the state and I was homeless for a little while. It all made sense at the time, but when I came to my senses it was so terrible, I lost everything. My mother saved me by buying me a plane ticket to get back home, and I now live with her still.

I have tried to hold down jobs but I always freak out and feel confused at some point. The last one was as a cashier but they tried to frame me for theft. But maybe not really I guess it sounds unbelievable. It’s so hard to know for sure. But I am able to question myself like this at least? Now my mother travels a lot for business and I am home alone a lot, and that makes it worse. Whenever I have to be alone for days, especially at night time, all of my issues get way worse, and I feel like I can lose my mind within the time span of a couple hours. I also know I am not showering or changing my clothing anymore but I just don’t think about it most of the time. I don’t have the thoughts. I feel like I can’t deal with anything.

Sorry this was so long. Does anyone here relate to any of this?

The professionals I have seen have all said different things over the years, depression, anxiety, etc, and the last psychiatrist I saw wouldn’t diagnose me with anything but wanted me to take olanzapine. I tried it but it was awful, I could never work on that medication couldn’t think at all, so much fog, but I can’t keep jobs like this, either, feels hopeless.

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Hey and welcome.

You should really consider talking to a psychiatrist again, I don’t like olazanpine too, it makes me feel like a zombie eating everything in sight, but I told my psychiatrist this and we agreed to only have it for emergencies, in the meanwhile I’m on another medication.

There’s a lot of meds out there for you to try. You can keep going like that, the way you are now, but I don’t think you want to.

You seem very insighful, which is a good thing, take advantage of that and get the help you need.

Diagnosis don’t mean much if they don’t serve the porpuse of treatment. And the schizophrenia diagnosis scares a lot of us, so I get why you’re relunctant to go to a psychiatrist. But we can’t diagnose you here, only a doctor can do that, and better yet if a doctor starts you on a treatment plan.

Good luck!

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What is been written is common to schezophrenic patients. Its important to go to doctor and seek medical help specially so that the sleep distortion that happens is corrected and due to inadequate sleep and not keeping mentally busy. This problem aggravates. Its important in schizophrenia to keep busy which will tire physically and by using brain so that one can distract the mind from the unreal thinking which has to be subdued and reality with sanity has to be forced. But yes when the attack happens all things go haywire and things look pretty in control and all faces voices and thinking takes a tumble. The voices seem to be telling something but its all imagination. Imagination coz then all are capable and should be imagining. But yes its true that ppl who have schezophrenia are more intelligent in normal circumstances and they usually are creative so to avoid the pitfall its important to keep positive and live with the feeling of who cares if ppl talk behind back.

Its important to create self-confidence and take life day by day but doing something useful everyday to get hold of financial aspect and not be dependent on anybody and when one knows its the medical problem then the soln needs to be found. We must not forget many great personalities only had and have this problem so call it that creative good mind comes with some strings attached…

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Thank you for the replies. I am currently looking for a new psychiatrist in my area, but there do not seem to be very many. It is tough because when I am in a bad state, my mother will not seek out help for me. So I only get help when I am in a better state and try to find it for myself, and then it is harder because I feel like I am not that bad and am just being a whiner, or maybe paranoid of paranoia itself. It was the last psychiatrist who gave me olanzapine but never diagnosed me, and I felt like she thought I was faking, and then I felt like I was faking and like it wasn’t worth it, and I quit going back.

I do try to keep my mind busy, especially with gaming online and also playing with my dog. But when I feel messed up that is about all I can do. I can’t read the news or it can make things very worse. I tried to research my symptoms the other night and somehow wound up reading articles about demonic oppression and became convinced I was being harassed by demons. Even distracting or educating myself feels like it comes with risk, so I mostly stick to “safe” things like gaming, reading books (no conspiracy ones), or playing with my dog.

Sometimes though when my mother is gone on business for the week, I can’t sleep very well and thoughts start to come, and the distractions don’t work as well. The best I can do is lie on the couch with my dog, for whatever reason my dog is very grounding to me, makes me feel like I am safe from any spirits or whatever/anything and helps me stay calmer.

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Yeah I have a hard time reading the news as well, let alone watch them. I don’t anymore, I look for positive news on the web everyweek and scientific breakthroughs and all of that, it’s healthier.

I was also very prone to conspiracy theories, and read a bunch of them. Since I started meds thats over, I still have a few friends that are very into it, but I limit my time with them because that kind of thinking isn’t healthy for me.

Try to stay away from those kind of sites, they aren’t good for your mind.

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Yeah I would kind of like to personally strangle Alex Jones for some of his “contributions” to my episodes years ago.

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Well yeah, and david icke.

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How are you feeling today? I can’t watch the news or read it without getting upset. I hope you can get a psychiatrist to help you. Do you have any kind of support system? I have my partner, she is the one who convinced me to get help in the hospital.

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@Turnip It sounds like you fell for the same conspiracy theories I did I became so scared (paranoid) that I said a bunch of crazy stuff online. Now that I’m recovering I feel so much guilt for the things I said. How did I recover? Well first I go to a psychiatrist and therapist. Second I take my medicine (olanzapine). Third I avoid conspiracy sites and limit news. Fourth I’ve learned to challenge my thoughts , I hope you get the help you need and feel better. Maybe you could apologize to your mother for scaring her. I want to apologize for all the crazy things I said.

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@Minnii yes he’s scary too.

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Kind of. All I have is my mother, but she has issues of her own, and some of those issues cause her to reject me when I am symptomatic. Her own mother (my maternal grandmother) was emotionally unstable and also had (still has) religious delusions and hallucinations. My mother has never said so outright, but I think her mother hurt her at least emotionally a lot growing up. Then my mother married my father (now divorced), and my father turned out to have rage, perversion and psychosis issues. There is my brother and me. My brother seems fairly normal and really successful in life, so my mother kind of claims him as her child, whereas I am considered to my father’s child (I never chose this, it seemed to be an assumed thing starting when I was little anyway). I think my struggles remind my mother of her own mother and her ex-husband, and it makes her reject me when I have symptoms. She will act like I don’t even exist, or in some cases act like I am evil and turn it into fights that make me even worse and more confused. So the only time I really get help is when I can appear completely normal.

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