Trying to think of my social needs!

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the internet has replaced real friendships for me. i used to have lots of friends when i was in school and until my mid 20’s. but i’ve been flying solo for awhile now, other than seeing family. i don’t have any urge to go out and make lots of friends anymore. i feel like what social interaction i have will be dependent on me working or my hobbies.

the thing is, i don’t want the commitments from friendships, like getting invited to bbq’s or parties or weddings etc. i would rather just be friendly to people i meet without giving up any of my free time on the weekends.

so i think all i need, is family interaction and a little socializing at work or whatever and i will be good, plus the internet of course haha.

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I need in person relationships. Online just doesn’t cut it for me

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yeah, i’ve learned that recently, these past 4 years, that i can only socialize for about an hour in real life. i used to just hang out and waste time for hours when i was younger. i don’t really do that anymore, but cut things short.

online i can come and go. i do want real life relationships, but i want them to be more focused, like work friends or whatever. i want no part of dinner parties or whatever anymore.

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I have a friend like that. She is comfortable living and being alone. But she likes to go out with people once in a while

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I’m in the exact same situation, flying solo for over a decade. I had lots of friends in primary, secondary and University into my 20’s. But now I have no friends that I can call and hang out with. I didn’t have a falling out with all of them or anything, just lost contact after school, they all got married and moved away, I developed schizophrenia. Now I just socialize with my immediate family. I socialize a little at work.

At first it bothered me that I had no more friends, but now I am use to it and kind of like it. I have no social commitments. But I am also older now, 43, so fitting in and have lots of friends just doesn’t seem as important to me anymore as it did when I was a teenager.

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I’d like to have some friends but I can’t keep a conversation going. I’ve also had really bad experiences hanging out with bad people in the past. I wasn’t good at picking friends when I was younger. I was willing to be friends with anyone back then but that was really foolish of me.

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I’ve as good as given up on socialising IRL. Most of my attempts have been with others with MI,and have been varying degrees of failure.

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This has ruined my experience also

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