I know some of the posters on here are very content and capable of going places alone… living alone…
I can go to my job alone. But I still don’t go to the market alone… or a café alone. I can be in a park alone or out in the ocean alone.
But I get very anxious when I’m home alone. I get very nervous when I’m alone for too long. Even if family isn’t directly interacting… having another pulse in the place just makes me feel better.
My sis has longer hours at school this time… my Girlfriend has longer hours at work too.
I’m really noticing I have a hard time getting out and about by myself. I’ll have to find a way to get better at that. It makes me feel like a little kid.
I’m hardly leaving the house these days both winter and depression have set in. When my bf comes home I glom onto him for attention. It helps me to call him during his lunch hour to check in. It lets me know that he is safe (he is a logger and works alone in the woods) and it eases some of my anxiety. I find that having the radio or tv on for background noise helps, doing activities in small chunks of time, scheduling the day so I have a plan.
I tend to get picked up on this one too…So I’m not judging… But how about adding more guys in your life. Some male bonding social group or something IDK.
you know hunni, the more time you spend alone the easier it will become. i know you find it hard but you could try going to your favourite places alone at first. do it many times until you feel ok in them. this anxiety doesn’t have to spoil your outings and i think it’s something you should bring up in therapy so you can use exposure therapy to ease yourself, little by little into feeling ok being alone. but do it with your therapist so that your time alone in different envoirements is managed. hope this helps x
yes me too…I worked out its because when your alone you just in your head and I can go proper loopy if its for too long. ive started gradually to do things on my own like going swimming but I have to be in the right mood for it. that’s what we need to do practise going out alone. cause what if one day no ones around to help us.
Do you have any friends (male or female) that could come to your place once in awhile? Maybe even another family member.
Its ok to want to have some people around. Even if its just for a short period of time. Really-just have someone drop in. Not sure if this will help you…
I have a person or two around all the time. Parents… brothers… sister… my one friend… Girlfriend… sister-in-law…
I’m just noticing being alone is very hard for me. I have a hard time staying home alone. I have a hard time going almost anywhere alone.
Some people can be alone and enjoy the solitude. Some people can sleep in their apartment alone and not have a paranoid spike up. Some people can sit alone and not have the head circus act up.
I don’t want a lot of people around. I just want someone around in case something happens.
Some people can be alone and not feel left behind, or forgotten.
Someday I will feel more comfortable in my own company.
Wow im just the opposite.
Does a TV on simulate people in the room to help you feel less alone?
I lived alone in my 20s so I got used to it.
Now that our son is grown, I have nothing in common with my husband and am often alone.
When you go shopping, you are never alone, though I would like to be at times.
I leave early in the morning to skip rush hour and am the first one in with the green glow of the exit lights and silence that I can fill with my choice of music.
I don’t own a T.V. I don’t like them… very negative energy. I do watch stuff online. But taking the effort to down load it feels different then having a random chatter box in my place.
I think too… I’ve been having a hard time with more life change. I’m trying to get used to it.
Do you have a pet?
Some say dogs love more than people do and they don’t leave your side.
Or I was just reading stories about pets that walked 10 miles to the hospital trying to find their owner. Or they were dropped off in a different city and still make the trip.
One hospital had visiting service dogs. Helped me right out of depression.