My nieces all think they look ‘ugly’.
I just don’t see it at all, but I can understand that they feel that way.
We need to make it okay for people to feel beautiful and to even want to be beautiful.
Everyone wants some confirmation/acknowledgement.
Make-up doesn’t mean you hate yourself. Denial and self-deprecation are the real culprits that accentuate self-hatred.
And before anyone comes in raving that its ‘shallow’ or somehow hollow, then you must have such a firm grasp that you have a perfectly healthy relationship to yourself and everyone else - especially a spouse?
Most people I see who swear beauty isn’t important to them, seem not to have any healthy relationship to anyone - it seems to fuel self-denial. Except of course to excessive eating of unhealthy junk-food and social avoidance.
Are you genuine about how you feel about beauty or do you feel like you deny feelings about it and hide it under the guise of ‘self-acceptance’ whilst feeling envy/jealousy and other negative emotions?
And yes, this is an epidemic because I see my nieces are suffering (in silence and in secret) with feelings of self-hatred, but our society pushes the idea they shouldn’t care or whatever and it is SOOOOOOOOOOO unhealthy physically, mentally, and emotionally.