I’ve been thinking of how to bring it up to her, and I’m not sure how… for over half a year I haven’t had a job or been in school, and I feel like if I try to tell her about this she will think I’m just using it as some sort of excuse for being a lazy bum? because that’s what I am. I don’t like it and I haven’t always been this way, I’ve never been the cleanest person (especially with my room) but I had much more motivation before… what is the difference between being sick and just lazy? I realize I’ll never know unless I get diagnosed, and some of you have read my other posts/comments so you know my other symptoms. but I wonder if maybe I am just lazy.
having sz we get lack of motivation a lot, sometimes we are sedated by meds and everything slows us down, its not being lazy its just a symptom of sz,
it would be a good idea to get a diagnosis if possible, i mean if you have sz then you should really get diagnosed. 
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They say that lack of motivation if one of the negative symptoms of schizophrenia. I’ve always lacked motivation. Once I get started I do pretty well, but it is so hard for me to get started. There have been times when it would have been so much easier for me just to overcome my lethargy and do what needed to be done, but I didn’t do it.
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Come to her with a sincere heart and she’ll understand.
All it takes is one day to change far as decision making.
Whatever inspires you,whether it’s art,music, etc let that push you.
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I may have always been lazy, but the lack of motivation is another thing altogether. Dropping out of society aside, before I got “sick”…I mean am I playing in a band and building swivel mounted spring loaded wiffel ball bat launchers? No. When was the last time I built a medieval city out of modeling clay? It was 15 years ago. When was the last time I could be reclusive and still rely on friends constantly showing up at my house? Before I got “sick”
That said, it’s isolation, for me anyway, that has a lot to do with it as I spent a good deal of my mid 20’s at this therapeutic community farm for people with mental health diagnoses and I worked my ass off like all hell and loved every minute of it. Whether I was harvesting maple sap out in the woods and trudging through the snow, winning wood splitting competitions, playing pond hockey, learning to weld and raise pigs and cows, managing a garden or sneaking the electric bubble car out with a girlfriend for a nightly burn cruise. I had motivation then, so much so that I was snowshoeing in the forest at night with a headlamp and stopping in at 2am to feed the wood furnace thyat provided hot water.
■■■■ now I’m overwheight and all the friends I’d have right now just keep their distance. Alone…alone…alone.
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Can you make some tea and sit down with your Mum and just start from the beginning?
She is your Mum, she will give you time to speak and will listen to you.
You can do it. It is the first step toward getting to see a psychiatrist and getting a diagnosis.
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I’m really scared. I don’t have the guts to do it, lol… do you think I could write a letter??
Writing a letter is a safe way. But you finally need to face your mom. Be prepared for that.
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you have to take what you can handle. that’s what my mom always told me.