That's what my sister said to me yesterday about my negative symptoms

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I’m totally shocked :cold_sweat:, I feel like she’s completely let go of her anger and hatred. What do you think?

I’m making a personal effort despite my disability and I’ve managed to stay in voluntary work for 5 months. I’ll do it again next year

“”"Hi. I wish I could have waited and not responded out of indignation, but I think Dad is sparing you enough that I don’t need to do it any more than I already have.

I refuse to play this unhealthy game of letting you drift slowly but surely, with no right to point out that your attitude is inappropriate.
Your illness doesn’t explain why you’re lying on the sofa reading while Dad cleans the gutters alone.
At worst, go home because I can’t stand it. At best, lend a hand.

As for Brittany, I’ve been reluctant to come there for a few years now for exactly the same reason.
So I’d rather not come than see you lying there all day.
It’s not normal and there’s no justification for it. We’re not talking about interests. Cleaning the gutters pisses everyone off.
You’re 43 and you behave like someone in their 90s.
Since I’m not going to Brittany, you’ll take care of the garden and the house for me.“”"

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Well maybe she is frustrated at seeing you chilling and reading and not helping your dad.

Maybe if hes cleaning the gutters you could just toss the muck into a bag while he throws it on the ground?

What kinda volunteer work do you do?

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If you can volunteer,

You can help your dad out.

I see where her frustration is coming from.

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The thing is, I wasn’t chilling, I was really tired and I put on a lot of weight.
She has a very aggressive attitude to my symptoms.
I really feel guilty about not helping my father, but I simply can’t at the moment.

Her message hit me right in the heart.

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I understand what you’re saying, though. Thank you for your reply. Have a good evening.

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Deturned I understand your frustration over your sister. She’s got no right to criticise you. Because when I look back to my past. I recall that I got very over weight while taking Clozapine and that one also worsened my negatives to the extend to totally apathy. I couldn’t read write or watch television.
Your sister should keep quiet because this illness make.us deter from previous levels.

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Thank you Columbus.
The thing is, every time I see her I even feel the guilt of existing.
She always finds something to say to me.
She never has a kind word. Don’t check up on me etc.
Maybe the message I posted about her is partly right, but it’s a combination of things.

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I think you shouldn’t be too upset about this because it’s a relationship you can fix.

If you put in a little more effort,

Your sister will probably take notice.

Have you talked to her about how your illness and medication impact your day to day?

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What did she mean by this?

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Thank you. Actually she’s a school psychologist and she doesn’t even believe I’m schizophrenic I think.
I’m not even sure she’s capable of hearing about “negative symptoms”.
I don’t want to talk to her about my symptoms because it bothers her, I’ve already tried.

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She meant that I was at my father’s that day, but I live somewhere else.

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If your sister is toxid you should avoid her. I lived 6.yesrs under the roof of my dad and. his new wife. Her company was totally damaging for my self-esteem and the only way to get rid of her was moving out.
Which I then did.

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I’ve decided not to see her anymore, but I feel very sorry for my father, who will suffer from the situation.

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You must protect your self against such a toxic person no matter what.

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Yes. Thank you for your answer.

Good night. :blush:

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I hate to say this, but I think you should just avoid and ignore your sister. I agree with @columbus

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Whether she’s right or wrong, it’s a toxic situation, unfortunately. :frowning:

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Have a good night and thanks all

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Don’t beat yourself up, my mom once mowed the lawn herself while I was indisposed by a delusion and hallucinations. All you can do is try to help when the symptoms aren’t acting up, and that might be rare.

I’ve helped her in several situations (but not all) since then.

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I can see how that might sound lazy or sloppy, but I’d just come back from volunteering.
Since doubling up on lithium and risperidone, and being discharged from the psychiatric hospital, I’ve been feeling very tired.
Sometimes I can’t even motivate myself to go to the computer and I just lie there…
My sister doesn’t understand this.
I would have liked to help my father, but it wasn’t possible that day.
I used a translation tool to translate my sister’s text. It may not reflect the aggressiveness of the message, but in my language it was extremely aggressive.

I’m still “disgusted” with what happened. I blame her a lot and she has a limited understanding of the disease.

Thank you for reading.

(thanks @agent101g )