Someone I thought was my friend borrowed £60 off me last week. She gave it back.
I saw her today. She said hello and kept on walking. I stopped so she stopped. I asked her what she was doing she answered. She asked me what I was doing then said I won’t keep you then and kept on walking.
The conversation lasted like 20 seconds. Do you think it’s a bad idea borrowing her money? Is she taking me for granted?
There is a woman I loaned $20.00 which I am pretty sure I won’t get back. It’s been almost a month. I gotta learn to be more firm with people on matters like this.
Awful. At least I got it back. U need to be morr firm to.
Oh no, that’s a shame. Maybe too soon to make a judgement but I guess I might also worry if I’d been used. Are you usually close?
We sometimes spend a night together with two other people having a few drinks on a Saturday or Friday night. She’s walked past me on street before just saying hi.
That does seem a bit off then. I hope things work out
I’m always the one to text her first. I might stop contacting her.
Maybe you are expecting too much. She did pay back your money. It’s not like she needs to entertain you because you agreed to lend her money. Maybe she was in a hurry as well.
I wouldn’t look for a reason to end the realtionship unless it’s something really negative happening. It just sounds like she might be careful about her relations. Have you known her a long time?
I’ve knowen her four and a half years.
I see. Well then it might seem strange there isn’t a little more social contact.
She might be that kind of person though. I mean introverted or something like that.
Anyways if it makes you uncomfortable you could just say no if she asks to lend from you again.
Yeah I might stop making the first move all the time. Let her contact me.
I don’t loan people money. If a friend really needs money and I have some extra to spare, I give it to them without expectation of repayment. It takes a lot of stress off the friendship.
I don’t like lending money either.
I’ve had absolutely terrible experience before.
So bad that I don’t tell people how much money I have, ever, not even family. I think.
Yea I think this is a good idea. See if she texts you first. I think it should be both ways really.
Yeah I’ve gad terrible experiences to.
Thing is I’m quite lonely and feel the beed for people to chat to. So it’s going to be hard not making first move.
Do you have other friends who sometimes text you first,?
I usually make first move with all of them. I might stop texting people first and see who I have.
I might lend money to a close friend or someone I know very well, but never to a aquaintance. I borrowed a couple of times and they never paid me back. One guy left the city for good the day after I lent him money. So the lesson is a aquaintance might very well steal your money.
That’s what I would do. See if she initiated anything. She’s being pretty rude, so I’d want to know if I were being used. Put the ball in her court and see what happens