My mom tried to tell me to stop apologizing to my husband because she said I’m not doing anything wrong. But then she started crying.
I really love my husband, and usually he’s extremely kind. But when he’s in a bad mood, he directs it all at me. He always feels bad and apologizes later.
I’m not ready to leave him. I don’t want to leave him. I love him dearly.
Would he ever leave you? Maybe you need to have a talk with him
I don’t know. I don’t want him to leave me. I do know that he’s been super irritable ever since they started lowering his pain meds. They lower it 10% at each appointment now.
Does he hit you @LilyoftheValley?
I’m sorry but I had to ask
Never. And he’s physically very gentle with me
I dont know maybe give him some space he might be struggling with lowering pain meds
That’s what I’m thinking. Hes in horrific pain now
You know what I going to keep saying. go to individual therapy and couples therapy.
@sweetpotatopie , I think if he’s still like this in January, I’ll sit him down and ask to go to therapy. He has refused so far, but I’ll try again. I’m currently in therapy myself
Best advice in the entire thread.
You’re a person of value @LilyoftheValley so please don’t let others treat you like you aren’t.
I haven’t read the other comments,
But I want to say that I agree with your mother.
Your husband is abusive to you and that has been my opinion for as long as you’ve been posting.
He doesn’t treat you right or seem to respect you.
I hope you will consider taking action.
Not living under his thumb.
I have a feeling things are worse than you let on too.
You are a kind and loving person.
And I care about you.
I hope you’re able to make the best decisions for yourself,
Even if they’re difficult.
You deserve better.
@Charles_Foster is brutally honest there but it’s all true.
I’m always concerned about how your husband treats you. And I’ve only been on for less than a year
Other users echo this sentiment
Additionally,
I can appreciate that opioid withdrawal sucks.
A lot.
But they don’t just take people off of such heavy medication for no reason.
Do you know why they’re reducing his meds so drastically?
I thought he had a chronic condition.
He does. But his workman’s comp doesn’t want to pay anymore and his employer is from Texas. In Texas, they are not required by law to pay workman’s comp. We can’t afford the pain pump meds on our own
Texas sucks when it comes to that kind of stuff.
I will just go ahead and say Texas sucks, period.
(I lived there a long time and know)
But there are affordable options when it comes to pain meds.
Even without any insurance, doctors will help find a good medication and there’s all sorts of assistance with prescriptions now.
Is he being dismissed as a patient after he tapers off or are they making other plans?
No. But they won’t give him pills until he’s off the pain pump. We don’t understand why.
This is something you have to decide by yourself. If you still love and want your husband then keep him, but I’m thinking that his having to come off pain medication could make him worse. You need to be prepared for that, if that happens.
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