I’m going to try to avoid being on this forum from now on because

My husband thinks I’m on it to deal with being unhappy having to deal with him. He says if I’m that unhappy, we should end it.

I’m not on here due to being unhappy being with him. I want to be with him, I told him that and really emphasized that fact.

Anyway, he’s out of the house right now and I’m home alone so I feel safe posting for a minute. I’m literally afraid to use my phone or the internet at all.

So if I’m not around, that’s why. Thanks for letting me be a part of this community. I care about you all and wish the best for you.

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Maybe he should spend some time here because he sounds delusional.

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This is manipulation and abuse.

He’s basically not allowing you on the internet now.

That’s ■■■■■■ up, @LilyoftheValley.

I feel like he mistreats you a lot.

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I ■■■■■ about my husband to my friends and sister and occasionally the forum too.

It’s not their business.

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Sorry your going through this with your husband, I’m pretty sure husband is fully aware what this forum is for and just making excuses of issues he has.

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Youshould listen to your daughter and leave this man. This is absolutely manipulation and abuse tactics.

He talks about your weight. What you cook. Your meds. Now trying to take away a support network.

Honestly, how long are you going to keep living this way? Isolating someone from friends and support is the #1 mental abise tactic.

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I hope you stay around. You’re a positive force on this forum.

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Oh wow, I’m sorry you’re feeling that way. I obviously don’t know your situation but that raises some red flags that he seems controlling of your communication with others. I really wish you the best and hope to see you around the forum. It’s definitely been helpful for me to be here and I’m lucky to have a partner that wants me to have my own friends.

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@TheFountainPen @Airparticle @Mars @TheIdlerWheel @Charles_Foster @anon4362788

I love my husband even though he’s not perfect. So, I want this marriage to work out.

And if I didn’t love him, I would have nowhere to go. I have nothing. I make $800/ month with my SSDI. The cheapest place near me is more than that per month.

My pdoc said I was having a reaction to the only med that enabled me to get out of the house on my own. And she’s right. Now that I’m off asenapine, I’m no longer aggressive and agitated.

I’m trying to get well enough to be independent. I’m in therapy, both group and individual. I’m doing the assigned homework. But I’m not ready for work because I’m so scared the men will harass me at my new job if I get one.

If he decides it’s over, I’ll try to go to a group home. But I checked just in case, and there’s no openings right now. So if he decides it’s over, I’m on the street.

My goals are to get well enough to work, and to have a healthier relationship with my husband. I plan to work towards both with everything I have in me.

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He’s lucky to have you. Hope things work out.

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What a control freak. You have an illness and need support. Tell him to leave your business alone!

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Mentally abusive if you ask me and that’s all a sz needs leave his azz

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My ex complained about something similar and it ended up getting more and more abusive

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Wow, you have to give up a helpful support system because your husband says so even though you’re a grown women. You post about many other things besides him and you’re supportive and helpful. Is he aware of that? I wish you luck in your marriage and I hope it works out for the better for you.

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My only advice is to focus on your marriage if that’s what you want to do. I really urge you to go to couples therapy and you both go to individual therapy. I will say you may feel that there are no other options if you were to leave him, but it is better to be alone than be abused. You are welcome to pm me anytime. I’m here for you.

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Thanks @anon55031185 . That means a lot to me

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I mean, I don’t know if you’re like me, but I don’t tell people IRL I have this disease. This forum is my only outlet to talk about it. So that’s why I come here. If I were you I’d tell him that’s why you come here, if that’s true, but I really am not sure whether or not you owe anybody an explanation.

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I agree with @anon4362788 .

Taking away your support net work is controlling and abusive.

You deserve to be treated so much better than this.
Your husband should be supportive.

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Just remember that you have great value. And don’t let anyone let you feel like you don’t. Your self worth and respect should always be protected by your significant other. If it is not, they do not deserve you.

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I hope you will stay or come back .

We are good for you.it’s support network .

Love and best wishes any which way.

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