I’m curious to know if anybody here has ever been able to stop being critical of themselves on a regular basis. Or if you know a good example of that.
I’m critical of myself, but in a good way.
I’m very critical of myself. I wish I wasn’t, but I am.
I self stigmatize. Which means that I practically descriminate against myself for having the illness.
I am afraid of my mind so I don’t go out in public very often.
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I apologize if i seemed to typecast or a little bit, I’ve just been trying to get some other perspectives on how to stay focused and not be self conscious of my interactions with people. Personally It’s been extremely difficult to let go of the label, to not have a personality complex that’s rooted in how science may define my behavior. I’d like to think I don’t do this as much anymore, but it crops up more than I’d like. For me when there’s stress, there’s usually a lot of worst case scenarios’s of what could potentially arise from whatever the situation is, thoughts like “my mind’s going to implode, I’m going to be carted off to a hospital” there’s a million different things. So I’ve just been struggling with things like that which 100% tend to hold me back from feeling easy.
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For anxiety and social anxiety you might gain something from looking at this free interactive website in Australia:
https://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome
I learned some things about how my thinking feeds my low self esteem and anxiety in social settings and how to get a handle on them.
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Yeah I’m pretty critical of myself but it’s all true
I have a lot of self esteem here somewhere, now where’d I put it?
Let me looky under the couch.
I think the best thing is to get the extra support you may need/want in such settings. And to discover when such difficult situations occur and what you can do in those instances.
in terms of not being self conscious in situations I find that if you understand that your worth is measured by the automatic value you are to others through being a part of life - a system which develops peoples consciousness, you will see your self esteem as something that is constant and equal to others and not fluctuating situationally. Your own expression no matter how it appears is an example to others of what it means to be human. There is no shame in that, people do what they think they have to and nothing else.
In this generation, we live in a society completely designed to damage our self esteem. It’s no no fault by any means.
I think the main thing is to just try to be the best you want to be and ignore the opinions of everyone else.
I too struggle with my self-esteem. Mostly because I do not live up to my expectations for myself, not even a little. But at least I’m at the point where I don’t care what anyone else thinks, only myself.
At some point in this forum one person attached link to the inner child article which I found very eye opening and helpful. Unfortunately I have lost it but if you are unfamiliar with the concept browse it in the internet. Below is the link to psychologytoday re that:
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I’m hypercritical of myself. Sometimes I think it is the only thing that saves me from being a complete jackass, but then I think that self hatred doesn’t redeem me.
I’m still not where I need to be but I am hashing it out with a therapist. In one sense being critical has helped me realize that there are a few aspects of myself that I need to accept. I’ve tried to repress them and that damaged my self esteem more than anything. I still don’t know how to cope with sza in a good way as my arm shows how well I handle it but I think a small step forward is better than standing still.
I’m very critical of myself, but it drives me to try my best at whatever I’m doing.
I have terrible self esteem.
My self esteem isn’t too good. I feel like I’m being punished over long amounts of time for making some horrible mistakes. I don’t know, I’m worried and anxious all the time-I can’t keep coping with the pain of these tactile hallucinations. Totally robs me of motivation and I know that what the voices are doing is cowardly but I don’t think the voices do…like they’re not thinking about what they’re doing. They just seem to do everything they possibly can to ruin me. I try not to listen or ignore the tactiles-but this is happening all day. It’s gotten rough with having to attend TMS therapy in a different state every week day but the therapy is winding down. Whew…
My self-esteem improved greatly when I finally realized that most people are so wrapped up in their own insecurities, they barely have any time leftover to actually judge me as harshly as I imagined. Everyone has social anxieties of their own, and everybody occasionally makes a fool of themselves. Now, I just embrace those facts, and dive into a conversation headfirst.
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Definitely helpful to hear some opinions on this, and everybody who opened up sharing their experiences.
My treatment team includes a counselor and a med prescriber.
Those two both tell me I’m funny and smart because they think I need my self-esteem boosted.
Jayster
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