Are you self critical?
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I’m trying to be gentle with myself when I am self-critical. As a child, I wanted so badly to be approved of by my Father and Mother, but the only approval I really need is from myself, cause my Dad and Mom have decided to check out of my life. So, I’m trying to be nice and kind to myself, cause I have gone through hell, and I deserve to be loved by me. We all deserve to love ourselves!
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I never had any family. I grey up in social services care. This as affected my self worth.
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That would be tough. I’m finding out more and more (as sad as this is going to sound) that the only true advocate you have is yourself. No one in this world wants to advocate for me, so, I’ll advocate for myself. I know myself better than most people anyways. So, I’ll just write letters to myself, because they seem to calm me down. I just do inner child work is what I have to do, cause no one around here wants to help me with it, so I do it on my own I guess.
Sorry about not having a family. If you had a family like mine, believe me, you’re not missing out on much. But if you had a family that was kind, caring, and acted like a “unit”, then I would say how blissed you are, cause I never had that.
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I am very self-critical. I am a perfectionist and, being human, can never live up to my own expectations. My family and friends don’t criticize me as much as i criticize myself. They are realistic in their expectations but i can never meet the standards that i wish to achieve. Even so, i have had to accept that i am disabled and will never be what i set out to be.
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Yes, but more in the sense of working Steps 8 - 10 these days.
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Yeah im extremely self-critical. I usually immediately put myself down after doing or saying something. Whether in my head or out loud. Not good. Not very conducive for learning new things either.
Looking back on when i was training in muay thai fighting a while ago for example, i think i was doing even better than a lot of others in reality, but when i was doing it in the midst of it, I’d self-flagellate (so to speak) if i even made the tiniest mistake! And this was when i was super new at it too.
So hard on myself. We really are our own worst enemies sometimes.
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Probably subconsciously. Not so much consciously. I have enough going on without beating myself up deliberately.
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To the point of self destruction, yes.
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I have very high standards I set for myself
Not the best way to be motivated but it works
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Yes, but I’m trying not to linger in that space nowadays. Instead trying to make it a constructive criticism. So I know better what to do next time and maybe grow a little.
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I’m extremely self critical. In bad scenarios I blame only myself. A little piece of me breaks apart like I’m experiencing a deep loss. It’s incredible to me how deeply self critical and sensitive I am.
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The natural curiosity in me wants to know everything but I have no standard to measure against. So I learn for fun on my own time; whereas, when I was younger I was very critical of how my time was spent and I would force myself to learn as much material as I could in a short period of time. There are so many talking heads in every field of study that if I take the time to entertain their existential lunacy at that particular time period I will surely feel incomplete and seeking their new improvised interpretation of whatever their talking about. There’s a lot of stuff that I could care less to know. I’m always incomplete but it’s a beautiful incompleteness just like everyone else. Everyone is lacking so why should I be hard on myself. Good things.
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My doctor says that I’m very self-critical, and 90% of the time I’m actually wrong — I judge myself too harshly and end up hurting myself.
I don’t know… I often torment myself after saying something unpleasant — I also often reflect and feel like I’m quite a failure.
Maybe this is somewhat related to depression? It’s hard to say; honestly, I think it’s more of a personality trait — to beat myself up.
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I am really self critical. AlwYs judging what I say or do to be wrong or causing offence, i treat myself like a subhuman.
Im trying to keep up with my affirmations in the hopes that they can slowly rewire my thinking
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Sometimes, but I’m usually distracting myself with media so I don’t have time to think, and even when I don’t do anything, there’s usually not a lot of thoughts going on in my head at all
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I am less self critical than I used to, especially before the illness.
I dunno if it’s a good thing or a bad one.
As a consequence I tend to feel more at peace but I also get less stuff done.
Very much so, but within reason I like to think
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I am always self critical. I’m hoping that starting Wellbutrin will help my depression, so I’m not so critical of myself.
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I used to be hard on myself. Since the voices took over I don’t have the energy to criticize myself. Instead the voices say demeaning things.
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