I bought my friend a christmas present.
I haven’t given it to him yet, and now he’s decided we shouldn’t be friends anymore.
He’s pulled that stunt before, but seems to be sticking to it this time. Maybe because I called him on his bluff, which seemed to piss him off as no matter what he said, I was like “Yeah you’ll change your mind like you always do.”
However. I kind of want to return the present as I could use the extra cash.
Should I hold onto it in case he does change his mind, or say “screw you” and get the cash?
I think so.
He gives me ultimatums like “If you leave now we’re not friends anymore” or “If you’re not at my house within an hour, consider us not speaking”, and the worst part is he feels he’s being reasonable.
I’m sick of his games, and if he tries to weasel his was back this time, I’ll tell him he better change his behaviour.
Like he randomly gets super pissy, but never apologises for it after it blows over.
I don’t mind if people have bad days and get irritated. What I do mind is if they don’t have insight enough to realise why it was wrong to unleash it on me, and admit they made a mistake.
Yeah, they always say natural consequences are best to teach a toddler. Declaring you not friends anymore means you don’t keep a present for him after that. Return it. If he does change his mind, don’t run out and buy him something. This was his choice.
I really think it’s wise to keep a bit of distance.