Just prayed for you and your mother. Hope all goes well.
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Thanks! 
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Sending positive thoughts.
Hugs)))
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You have my empathy. Been in your shoes, and donāt envy your position. Itās a tough time for everybody, for sure. Not going to make this about me, so Iāll just offer this: Donāt wind up with unanswered questions or having hurt feelings (this applies to you and your mom).
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Oh. :ā(
My mum just came back from hospital. The tumor grew a lot. The medication didnt work and they can 't do anything else. It is all wrong. They wouldnt give a prognosis yet, but it looks real real bad.
Im so sad. And i feel it is my fault, because of the stress i caused her. I want to trade places, she shouldnt die.
@FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter, as promisedā¦
Thanks for your questions. We are devastated, each in their own way. My dad was broken and withdrew behind his computer. My mum was crying and worrying about all the people who arent going to be okay without her and still busy organizing things, strangely. I was crying, trying to comfort my mum and feeling it is my fault for causing stress and thus cancer. My son is still at school. He doesnt know yet, he just knows that grandmaās tummy is ill and the doctors are helping her. I hope he will be okay.
Im just telling sad stuff thoughā¦
My son will be home from school in a minute.
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@anon73478309
I am so, so sorry. You didnāt cause your momās cancer. That is a lie. It is just a reality of living in this world.
I will be praying, especially as you tell your son.
Thanks for your prayersā¦Thanks.
You are in our prayers as well. I know you too are having a hard time.
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@anon73478309
How did your son receive it today? How are you holding up?
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Positive vibes for you and your mother. My mom kept a journal with her mom when she had cancer and everyday they would add one positive that happened that day. So when she died, my mom would have this journal to help her get through the tough times. They also had a strained relationship growing up. My mom finally healed from the guilt she had. Hope this helps. 
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@FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter, we didnt speak to my son yetā¦I did tell him the belly problem was more severe than we thought and granny was in the hospital and had a difficult day. He kind of didnt want to hear, kept changing the subject. Thursday my mum will hear more about the concrete prognosis - how long is left. After that i will have a real talk with my son. 
@cici2, thanks, i really like the idea of such a journal to keep. I will propose that to my mum. And im glad your mum healed from the guilt.
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@anon73478309
Thatās a careful, kind way of explaining it. I will
keep praying!
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Thanks @FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter.
I told my son a little more. My mum doesnt want us to speak to him at all, but I dont find it fair to let him in the dark, while he notices us cry, notices her get weaker. I find it wrong if he feels it, but doesnt know, and will be suddenly confronted with the facts.
I told him things with my mums belly arent okay and she isnt feeling well. That thursday we get more outcomes. And that some things might change in his schedule, because she is sick. That we will discuss things with him when we know more and he can always speak to us. I also spoke to his teacher.
My wise little son says we have to think good thoughts while things are unsure, so we dont worry in advance.
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@anon73478309
He is one wise little boy! He will be a comfort. Iām glad you spoke with him, even though your mom disagreed. You are his mother, and you made a wise choice. Your words were appropriate, strong, and affectionate.
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I will pray for you and your mum
Specially today.
I will also pray for everyone else on the forum.
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Thanks, both.
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