Renewal of vows

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My husband and I are going to see our friends renew their vows today. I’m really nervous about saying the right things when we all eat afterwards. I seem to always say stupid things. My husband says I’m a nerd. I guess maybe I am. I used to be really smart. I’ve had people call me a walking encyclopedia. But people just don’t want info and facts. I’m just socially clumsy. But the guy who is renewing his vows lived with us for 2 years so hopefully that makes it easier. I just feel off today. And paranoid. But this is really important because of all this couple has been through. So I’m going.

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Good on you for going. I’ve always said weddings and the like are the nightmare scenario for schizophrenics.

I’m sure you’ll be fine.

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At my own wedding i found the best conversations where about the future has in store for us. Also other couples advice and stories on how they met. Remember the day is about them and their celebration. You are just on board for the the ride. Not sure if i’m saying what i want to say here…

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You’re right @Skims. I’ll remember that.

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Good luck @LilyoftheValley!

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Thanks @Wave!!!

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Good luck @LilyoftheValley! Try not to overthink it. I’m sure you’ll do fine.

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Thanks @disciple!

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@LilyoftheValley
I’m so proud of you for going! That’s such a special, intimate moment for a couple. You and your husband must mean so much to them that they invited you!

I’m sure you are as wonderful in person as you are on here! Here are some tips.

  1. Ask open-ended questions, not questions that can be answered with yes or no. For example, do not ask, “Did you have a good Thanksgiving?” Instead ask, “What did you on on Thanksgiving.”
  2. Have prepared answers ready for common questions. Know how you will answer “What do you do?” “What are you doing for Christmas?” “Do you have kids?”
  3. Have 2-3 stories ready to tell as a conversation filler. It can be a book you’re reading, a new place you’ve visited or plan to visit, or a documentary you watched. Be ready to share how they affected you.

The time of the year gives you ideas for conversation, too. You can ask

  1. Which family will you see over the holidays?
  2. What Christmas traditions does your family have?
  3. Do you decorate your tree with colored lights or white? What kind of ornaments do you have?
  4. What food do you look forward to eating over the holidays?

Do not be upset with yourself if it is hard. It will probably be hard. Social events are. Just do your best to smile and respond well. You don’t have to have long conversations. Seek instead for quality conversations.

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Thanks @FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter!!! Those are all great ideas!!!

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I try to ask questions more than answering them. Ì have found people enjoy talking about themselves.
I think you’ll do great!

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You are welcome! I hope you enjoy your time there!

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@LilyoftheValley
How did it go?

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Pretty good. I was having a really hard time hearing but the conversation was good. :smile: thanks for the tips!

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Awesome! Way rad that the conversation went well! What caused the trouble hearing?

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A lot of people were talking at once. I have mild-moderate hearing loss in one ear and mild hearing loss in the other.

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Wow. That’s really hard. How long have you struggled with hearing loss?

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Since early twenties. I used to perform on stage a lot and all the noise harmed my ears. I can’t afford hearing aids so I try to pay attention to lips to figure out what people are saying.

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Wow. That’s incredible. I have like 8,000 more questions for you about performing and coping with hearing loss at a young age!

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