what is an ideal relationship like to you?
is it subjective?
just give a few examples.
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My wife and I traveled before we got marriedā¦had our wild and crazy nights togetherā¦
Now our mutual focus is the kids, but we still go out together once a month to a restaurant.
Weāre best friends now. Weāve been through so much over the last 27 years. Weāre at a peaceful, loving stage in our relationship.
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yeah but i donāt wanna be at that stage when I am 28 =(
I am just afraid this is all there is to life.
For me itās one that doesnāt judge. That accepts me completely without having to hide parts of who I am. An ideal relationship is kind and fun.
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mine is in adjectives
safe
secure
comfy
kind enough
boring
lazy
not fun
routine
I think people reach this level when they are 60 +
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Solemn and sacred silence that doesnāt require words.
And when things get tense, some lighthearted humor.
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After 27 years togetherā¦
Me: "Hey, honey. Whereās thatā¦erā¦ thing?
Wife: āTop shelf in the bedroom closetā
Me: āOh yeah. Thanks.ā
(We can read each otherās minds) 
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anyway I will drop this subject once and for all and just travel and have fun until I can feel what is the right thing to do.
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Youāll find someone who will stop the world and melt with youā¦
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I met somebody - he is 47 and lives in the end of the world. I donāt know if he will harvest my organs once I visit him in a year or two 
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I gave up on Mr.Perfect too. I used to be like āoh I love this guy so much Iām gonna dieā but now Iām just like ā show me your playroom I wanna see how great psycho you areā.
Just kidding Lol.
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Maybe the age gap is giving you problems. When youāre younger happiness is associated with excitement, but when youāre older, happiness is associated with peacefulness.
So both you and your partner are doing what makes you happy, but due to the age gap, itās the opposite of what makes the other one happy.
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Yeah but he is not that oldā¦ 39
It is a very good observation - we just dont have anything in commonor make each other laugh. We dont even agree on anything. Maybe my mental illness is also kinda ruining it
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It would be nice if it were ever f-ing āmy turn.ā Iāve never been with a woman who could be nurturing. Ten seconds of compassion could probably make me cry, but I honestly donāt know what Iād give up for it. I just know that you canāt mend an individual with clean sheets and oral sex.
Someone I can use and then toss away like a dirty rag. Just kidding.
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They may not be 60+, but just look it.
you just havenāt met the right mate yet.
A too secure man we call them boring?
a too fun man gets old fast,
too much wild fun can make you look older than you are,
but a mate that is compatible, just feels good.
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I gave up on relationships, getting to old now and I have been isolated for so long, doubt I would survive any type. That being said I think if I did she would just have to want to be with me and be happy with herself.
I worked a day with a gal and she was being so hard on herself and her looks etc, I finally asked her what was up with that, she was good looking a body most woman would want, all she said oh its a woman thing to think that way. Iām no expert but I think guys just want a gal thatās happy with herself, supportive, no real reason for you ladies to be so hard on yourself with every little imperfection.
When you meet someone and you realize youāve found the piece of your soul that has been missing your whole life.
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I donāt think I really have an ideal. I just want one that isnāt toxic. Iāve been in toxic relationships(not gf obviously) and they suck to be in. Just find a decent woman and try to live our lives together. There will be differences and conflicts but we would work them out. Also it is a little bit shallow but a woman that doesnāt disgust me to see her naked. Doesnāt have to be a bombshell.
To me, the ability to communicate back and forth in a relationship is very important. Some girls just have the nack of communicating with me, and some donāt. There is a girl who Iāve kind of passed up on a relationship with her because I think she has a lot of hate and anger mixed up with her amorous emotions. Iāve seen what that kind of relationship can be like. She sure is cute, though.