Relationship, Love and Intimacy with a normal person who understands schizophrenia

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I am talking from personal experience too not only from scientific statistics.

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One theory is that our dopamine is so suppressed for us male SZs that we don’t even make an attempt to flirt or to talk to some single girls. Our negatives get in a way of getting a date and keeping it as we often lose interest or look too pathetic

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So, schizophrenia affects men & women differently both in societal outcome expectations and ability to earn income.

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Yeah, not arguing. The stigma is very real, and this is yet another instance of misogyny being harmful to men. It is much easier for a woman to find love despite a disability than it is for men. That does not mean that women don’t also struggle, but the societal pressures are different. Women are already stereotyped as being irrational and emotional, so when a women displays these traits as a result of mental illness, a male partner is less likely to view them as dealbreakers. On the flip side, men who get irrational and emotional are stereotyped as being potentially violent, so women are more afraid of getting into a relationship with a guy who has mental illness symptoms.

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I became like that after my SZ but not all SZs have negative symptoms. Its also depends on negative symptoms severity, for me they are very severe and made my gf leave me.

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You summarized the conclusion very well.

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Mine is also is high but not severe, I can maintain minimum low end job and maybe a friend or two when I fully recover, but relapsed make us to lose everything and start from beginning. I have lost so many friends and opportunities, I even became homeless at one point. I would love to have a girl for a chat, but I don’t feel encouraged by any emotions. I created a dating app, talked to few girls and I lost interest immediately… at this point I would rather have a good behaving and loyal dog that I can pet and go for a walk any time than to deal with another relationship

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It is true that men with schizophrenia will have less success than women with schizophrenia in terms of romantic relationships and this thread just proves it. There have been no male schizophrenics who are married that have posted on my thread. This is very unfortunate.

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Exactly they’re different, woomen are more emotionally abused vs men and there is more woomen with mood and personality disorders from trauma than men. Nature is perfectly balanced.

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say what? I been with three wifes

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Well then, you are the first.

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Oh well look at the bright side, no possible divorces or fights, no investment into kids, a lot of free time. No one is gonna shout at you coming late from a pub late. No need for expensive dinner that end up food being disgusting. No need for those cringe good morning and goodnight texts. No anxiety for dates or panic attacks caused by it. Bachelor for life is a good choice

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Those are your bright sides. I am just the opposite but you are realistically correct that male schizophrenics are going to be bacheolor’s for life.

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normal women I have look at never new they ware not mentaly

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I mean… man… just jack off and you won’t think of s girl for a day and problem solved. Relationship to us doesn’t bring anything good, we get burdened by it. All the money I would spend on dates and kids I invest into some gaming PCs and video games, some proper good meals for me and I buy something nice for my mother and sister that can’t escape from my existance

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Sure on medication we can look normal, but when psychosis or relapse happens then the stuff goes down the drain

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Everyone thinks differently and have different needs.

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I mean you can buy a flashlight or save up for some hooker… heh? Whatever floats your boat

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I really considered that having one dedicated woman I could rely on and she rely on me could work out. But truth be told that this is not the case because facts are facts. I appreciate you informing me of your experiences and point of view on this topic. It really has opened my eyes.

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I’ve been married just shy of 20 years. My husband just knew I had extreme mood swings. After a few years he noticed I asked a lot about noises that he didn’t hear. I was put on antidepressants and that made mood swings worse. I never pursued mental health stuff seriously until I had a breakdown about 3 years ago.

We had a lot of ups and downs because of my mood swings. But after I got on APs and he got on an AP our marriage is like a rock.

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