Rant about my family drama

TW drug use

So ive pisted about this before but not in a hot minute. But last summer i had to call CPS on my brothers gf because i was told he put bruises around my nephews neck, and i know she neglected them because my nieces hair was a rats nest all the time. Wish i had called sooner. Anyway, CPS swooped in and immediately took the kids awah and placed them with my mom. Brothers gf was pregnant at the time and it was found that she had been using meth for a while. So they took away the baby and placed her with my parents too. Nephew is now with his bio father, so my parents have custody of my two nieces. CPS has given my beother this whole time to leave his gf ro get his kids back but he hasnt. Hes now losing his car because hes allowing his gf to spend all of his money, he doesnt even pay child support like hes supposed to. Brothers gf recently went to rehab but shes using again. And guess what… shes several months pregnant again! This woman is honestly the worst person ive ever met. She definitely has severe issues in the interpersonal rhealm. Shes stolen from everyone in my family, including me, tries to sabotage peoples plans, tries to ruin relationships that dont even involve her, steals compulsively, cheats on my brother, lies constantly and manipulates… anyway, i dont like her, no one does but my brother for some reason. So now looks like my parents might be getting a third child to raise. I feel bad for them. My dad completely blames me for calling CPS which makes me super angry. And my mom only wants to talk about this issue and nothing else. Everytime i try to talk about my life and my problems she ends the conversation or redirects it back to her. I just hate being around them sometimes. Dont feel like i can post every detail i want to, but this is the gist of everything going on. Just ugh i wanna rip my hair out over them. I swear my entire family is so riddled with generational trauma and im the ONLY one getting professional help but im also the only one with a psychotic disorder as far as i know though my dad has a highly paranoid personality thing going on.

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Is there any way for you to move out and get some space from them for a bit?

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Oh i live on my own in a different city lol but my mom calls me though i dont always answer

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I would take some time away from talking to them. I had to do that with my family when I was young. It helps you recharge and can get rid of the broken record in conversation

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In such a family dynamic, it doesn’t matter which member gets the right medication: they all improve if one starts to recover. Idea attributed to Dr. Alex Hyde, an early schizophrenia specialist.

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The onus is on you now to break away from the pack and be that person who turns it all around…lay down roots…and be an inspiration for generations to follow.

You can do this!

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Yeah i have to because my trauma nightmares have come back and they all revolve around my mom. Shes a huge trigger for me

I believe it. Ive seen it happen in my family already though not to the degree id hope for lol. But i try to share my healing knowledge with them when i can safely do so, and my dad had told me a few times im the reason hes no longer homophobic.

I dont think i want kids but i hope to be an inspiration for my brothers kids. His oldest kid is auch a sweetheart. She recently told me she loves everyone and i told her im gay and she was so happy lol. She also likes to give away her possessions to poor people and when she found out i was poor she started giving me her pennies! It was so sweet.

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Kids or not, you can still live your life right and be an inspiration to other family members…and to the generations that follow.

Goodness is contagious.

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