Youāre very welcome @spiderpig.
Maybe the men are trying to remain professional at work? In most workplaces, flirting would be considered unprofessional.
EDIT: Oops, this thread was for men. You can disregard my female input. 
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Its been going on for two years. And till last week i didnt notice it. I would have never belived that theres a problem except i noticed that they sometimes dont say hello back. So last week i realized that the whole house hates me. I started to look for the reason ā¦and the best thing i came up with was that they personally hate me. It means it doesnt have a reasonā¦they look at me and decide that im the one that has to be hated.
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I would say if they frequently didnāt respond to a simple hello for two years, yeah thatās hostile.
@anon62371846 Were you being friendly basically? LOL I have no idea how to flirt let alone how to do it in different ways.
Flirting is unprofessional.
Men can get into a lot of trouble if they cross the line, especially at work.
I never flirted at work.
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I liked this girl once who loved to flirt. she wrapped me around her finger and made me think she liked me. I went in to close the deal and she didnāt like it. she didnāt want any commitment, she liked being able to flirt with whoever she wanted. pissed me off, I called her a bitch and never talked to her again. even to this day sheās still single im told, been proposed to twice and said no twice. luckily I learned my lesson about her at a younger ageā¦girlsā¦they got issues.
I have been nose down ā¦working as hard as i canā¦occasionally smiling or saying something not importantā¦
Flirting is when you think spmeone is a nice person and you are alittle bitnicer to them than usually around people.
I just figured out that those men at my work hate themselves. This is a problem that is NON fixable. I decided to quit
They might just be keeping it professional, given what has gone on in the last couple of years with the #metoo movement and all. I know I see gals in my travels at work and I say hi, but donāt flirt with them in anyway
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Sheās allowed to flirt with whoever she likes in my opinion
thatās what she thought. donāt expect me to care about her. I hope she becomes an old lonely hag. im not at war with myself. sheās not even better than a bottle of red wine
Sounds like you donāt handle rejection very well.
It sounds like you are in a male centric environmentā¦ likely because none of the understand women in the first place and they prefer it that way. I assume that most have wives or whatever elseā¦
If I were to make a simple evaluation basedon nothing but what youāve saidā¦ it sounds like a conservative work environment.
If you want to get along best with it youād have to just be as professional as possible and down play the need for more humanistic relations.
Flirting is something a lot of dudes donāt understand. Flirting to men means potential for sexā¦ where women just see flirting as fun.
It takes a long time for any man to enjoy the tease of it. Women seem to wish it only was teaseā¦ and thatās me being sexist but I hope it makes sense.
For some folk work aināt pleasureā¦ but whatever your coworker said seemed to break the ice. People are always more than just professionalsā¦ but in a professional world it is hella important for some to just keep it that way.
Running the world aint a playgroundā¦ nor is running a businessā¦ A lot of lives depend on a business maintaining its profitability and standingā¦ Some people carry the weight of that on their mind at all times.
maybe thatās a part of it. but its not like I approached her at a bar or something. we were friendly for like a year, she started flirting with me all the time, we made outā¦and when I got serious she wasnāt interestedā¦and the same thing happened to those other men who proposed to her but they were actually in a relationship first. why do women want to flirt? date? and not commit? i think girls/women are more into flirting than men in general. i donāt flirt at all, whatās the point? i go to the bar and ask if they want to come back to my place.
I was young back then like 18, and things have worked out fine for me.
I know what flirting is (kind of) I just donāt know anything about how to do it. I guess I just wasnāt clear on what you did or did not say.
TBH I donāt see any point in flirting for myself. I like being friendly with women I like but I donāt really see what Iām communicating by flirting or why I should want to. Itās not that I want to have sex with every woman I meet. Itās just that it seems like useless B.S. to me. Whether getting friendlier or getting a date, I donāt see how it gets me closer. Not that I have had any real opportunities to socialize(with women I have a possibility to date) at all in the last 2 years.
I donāt know why they would avoid saying hello or other basic friendly overtures, but I can understand not flirting. They may not be accustomed or comfortable with this in a work environment. Iāve never been in a work place with men (or women) that werenāt friendly, though. I go out of my way to be liked. I bring in cupcakes, listen to peopleās problems, keep candy at my desk, things like that. Iām not recommending you do those things, just saying what worked for me.
Keep it professional. You shouldnāt be vying for menās attention so much. Donāt sh!t where you eat as they say. Do your job get in and get out. Staying drama free is the way to be.
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I donāt flirt with co-workers as I like having my job and want to keep it. Flirting doesnāt belong at the workplace.
My workplace isnāt male-centric. My boss is a lady and sheās awesome. I also have more female than male co-workers. Itās not that I donāt understand women, itās that I donāt want to get entangled with one ā or create the perception that Iām entagled with one ā other than my own wife.
Males have to be doubly careful in the workplace now with the whole #metoo thing. If a woman is hitting on you, even basic interactions are a threat. I would absolutely minimize any interactions with a flirtatious female co-worker as much as possible. Iād also make it clear that the flirting is inappropriate. If the flirting didnāt stop Iād report it to HR.
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In my opinion, all flirting in the workplace is unprofessional and shouldnāt happen. This includes women flirting with men. Guys can be victims of sexual harassment, too. And it is hard because nobody ever believes them.
Instead of trying to get the guys to flirt with you, maybe just focus on being professional and respectful, and see if they return the favor. You donāt have to be friends with your coworkers. You just have to do your job well and treat everyone with respect.
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