Now for the bad news

My brother emailed with some bad news. He’s just found that our father has about a year left to live due to cirrhosis of the liver a by product of heart disease (the two are linked apparently ). My sister and her family have known for quite a while. That will be both my parents who will have died from it, but for different reasons.

He’s 92 and has had a good life. Knowing that though doesn’t make it any easier.

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Yeah I’m sorry matey. As I’ve gotten older I realise how fickle this world is and it’s never easy saying goodbye to anyone. Much peace to you and your family.

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Will you be able to go to the funeral, since you said your dad lives in the States if I’m not mistaken?

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My daughter has said she would go with me, as I couldn’t do it on my own. I need to check things out re flights and hotels nearby to stay at…

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If it were my father, I would try to go. This might well be an opportunity to see some lost family members as well.

I hope you can make it work with your daughter!

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I’m sorry. It’s not easy having to let go. I hope you get to reconnect with family when he does pass.

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I’m sorry. That’s not easy news to get.

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Sorry @firemonkey. I hope you can go to his funeral.

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So sorry to hear that. I wish you strength through this time he may get to live a bit longer you never know. But 92 is a very ripe age he’s done well so far.

We are here for you :slight_smile:

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Condolences, mate. I’m glad to hear that you’re getting support with it.

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So sorry. Much love to you.

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@firemonkey My deepest sympathies for you and your family my friend. I send thoughts of peace for your father .

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This is already shaping up to remind me of the period before my 1st hospitalisation.A period of intense and relentless anxiety.

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I’m sorry about your father!

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sorry to hear this… i hope you all are coping okay…

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Struggling with complex, mixed emotions. When I was at my lowest ebb mental health wise my father took up a post in Altlanta, and stayed there after his posting ended. Apart from a fortnight seeing him in 1995. I’ve seen him about once a year since then. Whether face to face or virtually -he’s had far more contact with my sister. If I was more able bodied I’d just have my general and social anxiety(catastrophic thinking) to contend with, that would be helped by my daughter being with me. However it’s a lot more complicated when my physical health is thrown into the mix,especially my mobility. Needing to answer the call of nature while on the plane. Having to wear compression stockings. Then getting around. I’ll be wheelchair bound. A lot of pressure on my daughter. My daughter doesn’t know whether I’ll able to cope.

Yesterday I had a day that reminded me of the intense anxiety for over 20 months re wanting not to disappoint my parents while knowing I wouldn’t be able to cope with the non academic side of things. That lead to the 1st psych admission.

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so sorry you’re upset. how hard this is for you. very sorry.

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It’s possible you might not be able to go @firemonkey . I’m sorry.

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I’m so sorry @firemonkey
God bless

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Also sorry to hear and also much love to you.:pray:t4::two_hearts:

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