Upper society had all the social rules in the years prior, on how to act appropriately in all life’s situations. Usually mom’s taught their daughters until old enough to read “the book” (forgot the name, but it’s somewhere on my bookshelf- not that I’m in the upper class by any means, my mom bought it at a garage sale as a joke)
Not sure if the dad’s teach the boys much, but they are expected to be a bit unruly before inheriting the wealth, to get it out of their system early on, and not risk the family fortune.
Seems @firemonkey, you’re painfully aware there are specific rules in society put in place so everyone would feel at ease around each other which made less anxiety and more enjoyment.
It took years of practice, girls would be considered good enough to be presented to society as a woman at age 16 - Debutante. Was the word, not sure if the spelling is correct.