I have a feeling I have this. After my brother called me a mental piece of ■■■■ and causing me excessive worry and anxiety for his drinking problem , I really don’t care anymore since I stopped talking to him. It’s improved my life as I’m not constantly worried but I gotta ask myself is this narcissism or borderline. I don’t hate him but I can’t cope when I’m talking to him. He’s constantly drunk.
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If it were narcissism you wouldn’t care and wouldn’t be asking. I think when someone mistreats you it’s actually very normal to be upset and have a reaction.
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Is it that @anon25873142 is worried she is a narcissist or that she believes her brother to be? Im confused
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Oh! Maybe she’s worried her brother is a narcissist. I’m confused too @FreeLunch
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Either way it is not narcissism it’s a family feud
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No she feels that she has narcissism and she doesn’t.
You wouldn’t be concerned about your brother being an alcoholic if you were a true narcissist @anon25873142
Having autism can make you less empathetic at times but this doesn’t mean that you are a true narcissist
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Take it from me, as someone who suffered paranoia in relation to said topic.
So easy to apply npd to self through misdiagnosis.
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I get caught up in the whole narcissism thing once in a while and have diagnosed others with this disorder including myself.
I am not qualified to diagnose.
I have to remind myself many times that I am not a narcissist
My brother definitely has qualities that are aligned with narcissism but he was never formally diagnosed by a professional
My nephew has been officially diagnosed with it according to my brother
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I believe my parents are. I think about the behaviorisms associated with it a lot.
It could be a spectrum.
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As someone with borderline I have to say what you’re describing doesn’t sound like a borderline thing to me.
Your situation with your brother is super stressful, and being away from that sounds like a very good thing for you
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You can’t choose your way out of having a mental disorder. It’s not your fault Daisy. And your brother CAN choose to get help and quit drinking, but he won’t. Maybe not talking to him is a good idea, until he comes to his senses. You’re not narcissistic.
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Its hard living with an addict my mom was one and they always put the blame on you
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I have a question if you don’t mind. Do you ever get random moods of euphoria? Not like mania but perhaps you feel really happy.
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You can always ask me questions!! I don’t mind at all!!
I do have times of euphoria when I’m happy it feels wonderful. A lot of times it is linked to people I care about. I think it’s not as intense as mania though.
Feel free to ask anything!!
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Thank you for answering. I was researching this symptom and couldn’t find much so it’s good to know about it from someone diagnosed. I’ll ask you something else if I need it in the future. 
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The way our society is now-a-days… everyone can be considered a narcissist.
People with MI are seen as narcissists.
At least there was one person who I used to follow that said this.
After realizing more unsettling truths about that person, I no longer follow them and seriously question the truth about a lot of stuff.
I just doubt my own intuition and give a pass to things that I know aren’t right. WAY too much.
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The way I see it is like this. "Narcissist’ is just a word. Its useful for doctors to be able to categorise someone like this but for us laypeople its nothing more than dehumanising.
No person or group would have the insight to label you and place you into such a box as what we understand as narcissist and i don’t think I would want to attach that word to myself given what it means to everyone
But learning about your own narcissism’s can be healthy and you don’t have to be ‘evil’ or ‘incapable of love’ as the say to display narcissism or even have it ingrained in you some way.
What I don’t agree with is that things are as simple as good and evil and I don’t agree with the word always symbolising Evil. Things are alot more complex.
Having said that, it holds some value to identify when people are mistreating you and there’s no doubt that really bad people exist who will leave a psychological mark.
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I personally believe psychology is basically bs. The word “narcissist” was overused for a while on people that disliked other people was all. Seemed like it was trending in 2019 to 2020 big time. My first delusion was a fear that I might be a narcissist, and that my coworkers at the time were diagnosing me with this
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I will say I don’t think psychology is bs. Narcissists do exist.
But I do agree that the term is over used. I think it’s common for people to not differentiate between a narcissistic behavior and an actual diagnosable narcissist. Kind of like how people will incorrectly use OCD or ADHD.
Narcissists aren’t automatically bad people, I shouldn’t worry too much about who is and isn’t one unless you’re spending a lot of time with them.
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