My statement applies to all strangers, co workers included. They have no reason to hate you unless you give them a reason. If you are saying everyone in your circle hates you, I think that’s really unlikely. You feel they all hate you however, and I’ll say again that is not healthy.
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At work, I worked as hard as possible and was always nice to everyone. Yet, they refused to let me join everyone in buying lotto tickets because they said they didn’t want to have to share with me, they told me they didn’t care it was my birthday and I shouldn’t take it off even though they all did, they didn’t want me going to work events for everyone in the office… the list goes on. That’s just one example of being hated.
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Yep, me too. I’m sorry @LilyoftheValley. I’ve developed a persona to deal with people. Medicated I’m less upset when people are jerks. It’s hard for me to make friends, but I have at least four who are genuine friends who like me.
My manager said to my husband, “we just love her” when he came in to use a gift certificate I gave him for Christmas. NO, she does not really like me. She has a personal problem with me. So, I think I get it. This is the first massage job I’ve had in five years where I had this problem. It’s this particular manager.
I have horror stories from jobs I had before I had children. It’s why I chose a profession where I’m working with people one on one. My only responsibilities are related to the client for the most part. I have to pick up and change my room and get it ready. So, I am not working in a group. I’m just responsible for my clients.
What I’m thinking is you’ll find something you like and be able to stick with it. If it’s not the first one or two jobs you try, take heart. You will find a good job you can stick with.
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I think because of your needs, it would be better to work in a very small environment with limited stress. I’ve worked in many different environments including McDonald’s. There were some people who didn’t work well with me, but most often people were very kind.
On social media you come off as very kind and understanding. You show a lot of empathy. On this forum people don’t have issues with you. So maybe you could work online so there’s less need to physically be around others. But that’s probably why the therapist thinks you would do well in Human Resources because you are very empathetic and supportive towards others problems.
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Once again i agree with sweet potato pie the vast majority here are empathetic and caring sweet potato your a very intelligent person
I was just thinking, You and I were both abused and neglected growing up. We didn’t know what was normal.
We both have sza too. I think this could possibly affect how we communicate with people. We’re not wrong or bad in what we say, but I find that I’m not good at small talk and my coworkers and managers don’t prefer talking with me, for instance.
The clients like me, though, which is what matters in my job.
I just happen to be in an environment at a massage place where employees talk to each other a lot. This is not usual for massage places though.
I stay where I’m at because massage therapy is a commissioned job. I get paid when I have a client. I’ve been booked a lot, so I’ve been OK working there for now. It’s probably not a place I’ll stay at long-term though.
Edit: The staff is still cordial with me and happy to talk to me about job related things. So, you should be able to have a place where you have general respect.
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I sure as hell don’t hate you I have my moments too where I feel this way you are a likeable person trust me we all had bullies in our life I know when I was in school even some of the teachers bullied people but remember bullies try to make you feel bad because there insecure sad and often hate themselves and take it out on others I was a bully for awhile in school before I got on meds that made me feel happier and then I was a super nice guy for a long long time I regret being such a jackass when I was a kid however I gotta learn how to forgive myself and this is coming from a former bully so I know how it works
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The patients always loved me too. So interesting.
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It takes a lot to admit and own up to that. I’m glad you’ve changed for the better. That shows a lot of character.
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Thanks that means a lot to me when I’m happy I always go out of my way to make others especially the people I know who are going through struggles I try to show them that yeah there is hope I didnt see any hope for awhile then after getting on meds I became a better person but what you said made my day/night
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Another thing I really want you to know is that you have a friendship circle in this group we’re all here to help each other in fact I joined the group to help others I was and still am having symptoms but I do know everyone here i consider a friend I hate nobody here i immediately when I got on this website tried and idk if I’m doing good but I try to help others feel happy even if it’s temporary I wouldn’t want others to feel the sadness I have hence why I’m on this site a lot
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Thanks for being here to help others @AwesomeFisherman. I’m glad and grateful to have the people on here as friends
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Another thing if you ever wanna vent you all can message me I’m usually good with responding like I reply to everyone who dms me
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people are dangerous and love only the perfect ones, and then not always, but so many things wander and break out in people sometimes
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