She was asking about my fiancé and I said we met there (at the mental health teams walking group ) and she said oh so he has mental health too. I said yes he has aspergers.
She was also asking what I liked about him and what he likes about me. Then she said do you think it’s possible you also have it ?
I said I have no idea. I don’t know that much about it. Is it possible ? She said yes it’s a possibility. And that might also why we get along so well and gel together.
Now I’m not sure what to think. I don’t know where to go with this.
In my experience, it’s usually pretty easy to notice once you get to know someone. They don’t pick up on social cues, so you notice something is different pretty quickly. I might be wrong, though. I’m just speaking from personal experience.
Counting from when Asperger’s was an official dx -1992/1994 (not sure which) .It took 25-27 years for me to get a dx of Asperger’s syndrome . Having a severe mental illness is certainly a barrier to getting diagnosed sooner rather than later.
Can you ask your pdoc directly if she’s diagnosed you with aspergers?
Is this the first time your pdoc has discussed a possible aspergers diagnosis with you? Did she discuss why she thinks you might have aspergers? Presumably it’s not solely because you’re dating someone with aspergers.
I’m not sure about other countries,apart from the USA, but you have to go through quite a thorough assessment before you get an official diagnosis or not in the UK.
Purely anecdotal but based on reading about people in UK and USA that went through an assessment. USA assessments seem to be more thorough.
It’s the first time she has discussed it with me yes. But I don’t think it’s purely cause I’m with someone who has aspergers. My sz is very stable now. But I have a lot of social problems and also problems being intimate which we discussed yesterday.
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s and am now on evaluation for schizophrenia. I’ve had social difficulty ever since I was little, always felt like an alien and preferred to isolate myself, though eventually I grew sad that I could not have a best friend. I would lose my ability to speak if I was overwhelmed by any emotion. My mother would get really mad at my silence, like I was doing it to get to her but I wasn’t. I’ve always had a plain face regardless of what I am feeling. I have a lot of executive function issues, like not being able to remember multi-step instructions and struggling with motor coordination. I’m sharing so you can see if it rings any bells.
Sz can affect you socially a bit so you kind of have to look out for warning signs that you would not get from sz, like having meltdowns that last about half an hour or having an obsessive interest in certain things like trains.