She’d say things a kid should never have to hear. Totally insensitive.
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Have you ever heard of the refrigerator mother theory?
No, What is it?
The terms refrigerator mother and refrigerator parents were coined around 1950 as a label for mothers or fathers of children diagnosed with autism or schizophrenia. When Leo Kanner first identified autism in 1943, he noted the lack of warmth among the parents of autistic children.
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When I was 17 years old, in 1991, the doctors actually told my mom and dad that my illness was THEIR fault. They also said that I’d be dead or institutionalized by the age of 21. Next month is my 48 birthday and I’m still kicking!
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My mom could yank my chain from time to time. She wasn’t a bad mother, but she did disappoint me a little towards the end of her life. She was so shocked when she had to face the fact that we weren’t the solid, church going family she thought we were. I could have told her that way before she was confronted by that realization.
My parents were distant. I was fine with it. Wasn’t I? Or was I repressing something? I was always imagining things entertaining myself so well!
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I’ve always had an active fantasy life too.
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I found this, I think this is the paper in which it was mentioned. I read it, its 11 pages long, its interesting.
https://blogs.uoregon.edu/autismhistoryproject/archive/leo-kanner-problems-of-nosology-and-psychodynamics-of-early-infantile-autism-1949/
Complete original source available [here]
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Thanks for the info @eek 
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Yeah, I had never heard of that phrase, I have heard of Gregory Bateson’s theory of the Double Bind which may be related. Thanks to you too.
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While I was under pshycosis I impregnated a girl, she would be a responsible hard working mom, but my mother decided the baby had to die. Now that is something that really makes you think because it is not natural. I love my mom. She regrets it now. But think for a second, your own mom rejecting your offspring. It is pretty hurting and left me confused, still does, it is pretty heavy stuff but it was a long time ago and she is square so she had hate, now no longer, egoism, punishion as a tool based on meritsor what she considered lack of it. I know it hurted me beyond my comprehension.It still does. I have some sadness coming from this fact. And it is true, mothers were blaimed for the schizophrenia of their suns or daughters, refrigerator mother, but positively science proved otherwise and that brought a great amount of relief to the parents. Medicine is awesome. I would like to thank every researcher and farmacologists that made the new generation of anti-pshycotics possible.
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My mother was the only one who cared but could be insensitive. She had a mental block about causing psychological distress.
This is so interesting and 100%true for my mom. Not only was she cold and distant, it seemed as though she loathed me, despised my existence. She also knew my older brother was abusing me, and did nothing to protect me.
My mom is pretty cold. She has always prioritized work above family. She’s a true workaholic.
The only benefit is that I will inherit a lot of money if she ever passes away.
Still I hope she stays around for a long time. No one is perfect and I don’t like the blame the parents game. They did their best even though they hurt me at times.
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