My mom is not doing well

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As some of you may know, my mom has schizoaffective disorder, but she will not accept that diagnosis. She has taken an antipsychotic and a couple of antidepressants for more than 20 years. But about 2 weeks ago, she stopped all of her meds.

For a whole week, she wasn’t responding to calls or texts. She even missed church, on Sunday, which is very unusual for her. Her church members reached out to my dad (divorced, but still involved). My dad, brother, and a church member all went over to her house, to find all of the locks changed. They broke a window to get in.

My dad had to leave, after breaking the window, because he cannot be inside my mom’s house. My mom hates him and thinks he is evil (literally - it’s part of my mom’s delusions). So, my brother went inside and found her catatonic, laying in her bed with a sheet over her face. It’s estimated that she had been lying there for 3 days straight. Meaning… if we didn’t find her on Sunday afternoon, she could’ve died from starvation and dehydration. The catatonia kept her laying in bed for so long… She couldn’t move.

My family also discovered that ALL the personal belongings in the house were packed into trash bags. Including pictures of family and friends. There were close to 40 filled trash bags. She was going to throw everything out, because she feels like nobody loves her. Even though I always tell her I love her.

And there were groceries on the kitchen counter, that looked to be there about 5 days to a week. Everything was rotting.

I called a crisis outreach team, for advice. They cannot forcibly admit her to the hospital. The best advice they could give is… if this happens again, we need to call the police and have them handle it.

But, a good thing, is one of my brothers is moving into her house today. He abruptly ended his apartment lease so that he can live with my mom. She cannot live alone any longer.

My mom has been sick since the age of 23 and I think she is now 52. She has NEVER been in a psych hospital. Never. Even though she is so ill. It’s because she doesn’t believe she is ill.

Just needed to get this off my chest. I am so worried about her.

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Sorry to hear about your mom @Blossom. It’s a good thing your brother found her.

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Oh I’m sorry to hear this about your Mom.
I’m glad that your brother is moving in with her.

Please keep us posted

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wow, so sorry ! thank goodness you guys went over there !

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This is so upsetting.

It’s a miracle you found her.

I’m so sorry you and your family are going through this.

I hope your mother makes a full recovery and is able to get the help she needs.

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Wow. You must be so grateful he’s willing to try and do that. Hopefully he can help her

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thats really sad i hope she can get some help…

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Where I live, she would have been involuntarily admitted to a psych ward.

I’m really sorry to hear that.

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That’s great that your brother is moving in to take care of your mum.

So strange that hospital won’t take her in.

Would a supportive living take her in?

Best wishes for your mum.

That sounds difficult for you too.

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Ive been like that before. Thankfully ive come out of psychosis and have gained a lot of insight into my illness. So sorry about all this that has happened. I cant imagine how id feel if my mum was going through that.

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That’s scary @Blossom. Is she back on her meds now?

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Aw im so sorry Blossom. I am glad you were able to get to her in time. I am also happy your brother will live with her from now on. I hope she stays on her medication. This breaks my heart. Be strong. Love to you and your family.

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She restarted her antidepressants. But IDK about her AP. She threw it away, 2 weeks ago. My brother tried to get a new bottle at the pharmacy, but it’s too soon to fill it. I don’t know if she ever got more.

But my siblings, my dad, my husband, and myself are having a family meeting on Thursday to figure out how to handle this situation.

Thank you, everyone. :purple_heart:

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I fully understand why you’re so worried.

A hope the family can come up with a strategy that works.

The best of luck to you and your family @Blossom

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It will happen to many schizophrenia patients. Because they could not describe them selves ill. My family members, my mother wife and brother also uncle’s were forcefully motivated me for a psychiatrist treatment. Otherwise I was unable to for proper treatment and life that I achieved today.

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