Where do I start. My BF and I have been together for almost a year. He’s is schizophrenic that does not take medication. When he moved up to be with me, his mom gave me paperwork she had been working on trying to establish his case for SSI benefits and to followup with a vocational facility. Well his SSI case was denied and he kept missing his vocational rehab appointments. He has chronic disabling back pain and ulcers. A doctor his mom took him to told him to stop eating spicy foods, drinking coffee and smoking. He still consumes all of these things. He also has several dental caries. My friend told me about a clinic where he can get free or next to nothing medical treatment. I went to get the paperwork and helped him fill it because I am worried about his health. The clinic at that time told me, he has to have a medical workup before he can be seen for his dental caries. But he refuses to go to the clinic to get help! He had an injury years before I met him where he was smashed between some equipment at work but didn’t seek a medical evaluation because he thought he would lose his job and lose money. Now years later, his back hurts so bad that some days he cannot work.
Initially things were good between. He had three job offers in one day. He accepted one position and was fired about three weeks into that job. He was fired unjustifiably be but had no recourse to object because he was getting paid under the table.
But now it seems he has lost his motivation. He gets money here and there always under the table because he still has hope to get SSI, but he will not initiate the paperwork, refuses to go to the doctor… I am at a lost.
Since he is not getting treatment for his schizophrenia, I can assume that some of his behavior is because of his lack of treatment, pain, etc. Once he has his mind set, its set and there is no changing it.
Is this usual for schizophrenics? What can I do to help? I feel like giving up. I love him dearly but I can’t see myself living like this forever.