Just something I have noticed over the years. A large majority of females with sz/sza are in relationships while a very large percentage of males with sz/sza are single or divorced.
Why do you think this is?
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I don’t know the answer to this. But perhaps a poll would be interesting?
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Society stereotypes don’t help. Economics doesn’t help. Still. When I was married I hardly used the message boards. I was busy being a husband and a father. I was busy with maintaining a relationship so if you’ve time and your single it’s easy to have spare time.
Warning. Lets not let this devolve into a mysogynst cesspit. Be respectful and civil and as recently said in a few posts it won’t be tolerated.
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My wife was up front about the fact that she would have dropped me like a hot potato if I had been unemployed. She already supported one boyfriend before me and that was enough for her. I was working full-time as a tech at a community college and also running a part-time biz when we met.
I think a lot of women are more socially functional, like with autism. My doctor told me schizophrenia is a neurodevelopmental disorder. So maybe the females with schizophrenia are more social than the males, like in autism. I am a female with schizophrenia and im not tho. But i did have one of those huge tests in the state hospital and it said one that i had schizophrenia but also that i had a male personality or something like that. So maybe thats why…
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Sorry @Bagul1, I was trying to make a poll for you, but my brain is too scrambled. Perhaps someone else will be willing to make a poll, if you would like one?
@blossom Someone else could if they wanted, i’m kinda tired and don’t know how to make one though
I was in several relationships, the longest one for 8 months and it ended when I developed or had my first episode. After that I fell off the face of the earth dating wise. There was one girl who I still talked to after the diagnoses, she actually asked me out right after I got out of the hospital. I didn’t know what was going on but knew I wasn’t well so I blocked her lol.
But honestly, I don’t want a relationship ever, am just curious as to what is going on
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When i met my fella i thought it would just be for one night, then we got to know each other really well. I was ill but undiagnosed, i went through many jobs trying hard to be normal. Anyway at 32 i was eventually diagnosed sz and my husband said everything made sense to him about me after that. He became much more sympathetic and caring. He is way more supportive than my parents or anyone. Were 26 years together now and i couldn’t last a day without him
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- Are u female and in a relationship?
- Are u female and single?
- Are u male and in a relationship?
- Are u male and single?
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Like this?
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Thank you. Please peeps avoid the incel stereotype rubbish and I’m not sure whether the forums are an accurate representation over the rest of the mentally ill folk.
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@rogueone i’ve seen it here, facebook groups and in hospital settings :o
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Yeah it’s cool. It’s not just mentally ill people is probably more the point. It’s usually society reflecting in our population. When you consider that females have more options and marriage isn’t such a social necessity as it used to be in our parents generation for example. There’s also way more divorce so yes. There may be a discrepancy but I would argue that is societally the same too.
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For example a quick Google on this subject…
As of 2022, Pew Research Center found, 30 percent of U.S. adults are neither married, living with a partner nor engaged in a committed relationship. Nearly half of all young adults are single: 34 percent of women, and a whopping 63 percent of men
It’s not just the mentally ill males who are affected.
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@rogueone I def think illness does play a role though. I went from an outgoing partying felt like I met my soulmate type guy to and introverted person with no desire for anything ever.
And this was a direct result of the illness forming
It seems like everyone I know is in a relationship so I never woulda guessed those statistics @rogueone
Sz is way serious. The point is yes. Single, sz males aren’t a great thing in that dating market. The trouble is that your competing with a whopping double that in people who don’t have sz. Yes it’s exacerbated by our disorder. I’m single for nearly 20 years now too but we aren’t the only ones. It’s a thing that is moving through all our society.
It will be interesting the poll that was created for this thread. I would suspect it would mirror those stats that I provided and that wouldn’t surprise me.
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from my understanding of data, women develop it later, and may have already started relationships or have some more solid headway into professional lives. That’s very good for getting the ball rolling towards a successful relationship.
If you fail to launch its hard to catch up on this when you hit past the predormal phase. Energy to learn and work a relationship might be gone or lacking.
I don’t think having a relationship is a sign of success if you aren’t satisfied with it, for instance you may have turned a little co dependent in a relationship. I’m pretty dependent on my family right now, and I could see that being harder to accept entering a relationship then if ones already established.
I don’t really know anything on this topic but thats my guess.
Thank you rogueone for the data. I guess its generally just more true for people in general.
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I am married and have a kid. But the relationship has been highly unstable. I seek for better outcome. Hopefully I can see positives and move on. For me it has to be more work and less talk so I don’t argue.
I’m nonbinary and I’m in a relationship and try to be social.
I think men have a harder time getting into relationships due to societal standards, and how men are typically raised in their environment.
A lot of men are taught things growing up and throughout life that are detrimental to relationships such as being told to “keep your feelings to yourself” and “real men don’t cry”.
Men are often shaped by environments where vulnerability is looked down upon and sometimes even unsafe.
Lacking that vulnerability makes it harder to communicate needs to a partner and the effect of that is ending up single
Obviously this doesn’t apply to all men but I think we need to destroy the toxic masculinity that fuels these things
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