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On this chart a person’s lower needs must be met before reaching for the next one up.
If I can keep a grip on the idea that I’m loved and liked, I’m doing ok.
I can have times where I forget that, and get really paranoid everyone secretly hates me, only tolerate me, just hiding they want me gone forever. Those are rough.
My physiological needs have got to be met first or I can’t think of anything else. It’s a survival thing for me.
I am stuck at safety needs though no job. Before I was just at physiological needs. Maybe when I find a better med I will go up to Love and belonging.
The top 2 are impossible for me, maybe if I never had sz.
I gave you a like only because my feelings are the same. What’s frustrating for me is that I don’t know if it can be cured with a pill or talk therapy. It’s rough when our minds go in that direction. And I feel silly after receiving validation that whatever my thoughts were simply aren’t true. If that makes sense.
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And OP.
I tend to yoyo with all those needs except the first need. There I am very lucky compared to most. Imho.
Can the self-actualizers please post about what their lives are like?
Totally does. It helps to hear my family say they love me, we’re all good about that around here.
When I can convince myself they do actually care, and aren’t upset, I feel…silly? Maybe. Relief for sure. But it takes effort, and the fear is fresh in memory.
Sorry you understand how it feels. But it’s nice to know I’m not the only one.
It seems that i feel like i have self-actualization but i don’t have esteem. And i just have love and belonging from my parents, but i have no friends.
I say i have self-actualization because i can think about what i want even though it’s not always useful. But i have the desire to become the most that i can be, even if it’s not big.
You’re content with just dreaming? I don’t think deep down this is actualizing you.
reality is an illusion. And dreaming it’s something like reality ultimately.
I have peaked the top of that a few times before sz, since sz it’s been purely most of the physiological needs.
Dreams are boring. You need some tactile feedback to make them interesting.
Don’t believe in your senses, believe in your mind! That where all begin.
I think some people’s lower needs are more demanding than others. My lower needs have a very low threshold. I don’t need to achieve wild success or 10 friends to pass those levels.
I’m pretty sure I’m self-actualized. However it can fluctuate to physiological needs depending. I think in order to be self actualized you must be content with other needs.
It’s also interesting how drugs like cigs et al. can become physiological needs. Not having a cig drops me right down to base needs. Stay away from drugs kids!
If I could ever convince myself that I had prestige and was successful, (people tell me that I’ve succeeded and accomplished a lot in my life; I consider myself a failure), I would be self actualized.
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