The Lybalvi website lists symptoms of sz. One was: “loss of interest in socializing with others.” Is this a symptom? Can anyone relate?
This is a problem for me and I feel alien because of it. I don’t want to socialize and I don’t want to be pushed by my treatment team into doing so anymore.
I get these big social plans in my head because of my treatment team. How do I just stop?
It costs me effort to socialize and I limit it. I need a lot of time on my own and am okay with it.
I’ve heard those stories on this forum about being pushed to socialize by your treatment team.
My pdoc never did that though.
I tend to have a loss of interest in general. It comes and goes for me
I honestly don’t socialize much in the real world. I have day treatment and the people there, my therapist, family, and a few friends. I hardly go out to eat and never really social events. I used to play a lot of disc golf at different parks. That’s kinda social. I should find something in the real world to do though like walk in a park or go to the library idk.
Debating whether to socialize and how much. I had good friends as a teenager but I was extremely shy and didn’t talk to people I didn’t know. After I got sick at age 19 I was a little social in the hospital and in my first group home and even managed to talk to some women. Was still kind of a loner in the group home. Then I was a loner for the following 8 months in the hospital, I just talked to a few people and had no close friends.
I got released to a nice group home and talked to counselors and a couple other people but refused to talk in groups which pissed off some people. Then I got a job and moved into supported housing and made a couple of friends and talked at work. Then in 1986 I got addicted to crack and I was off. I was meeting new people and talking to them and had several friends. Unfortunately, they were all druggies and had ulterior motives towards me (and I towards them). But it was fun partying with new people all the time. I got clean in 1990 and moved into a board & care home.
I started going to AA, CA and NA meetings and made a good friend at the board & care. He got me to be social and I made friends in the program and I did a lot of social things. 1990-97 were my glory years. I did fun stuff all throughout my illness but from 1990-1997 I stepped up my game and did all kinds of stuff. Since 1997 its been a slow, steady decline in social activities. I still talked to some people but I started isolating a little and it got worse. I was around people at my jobs but I was never the popular guy. I was forced to talk at some jobs like when I had to enforce the park rules at my park ranger job.
I was actually popular at a place I lived from 2002-2007, I had 7 roommates and talked to them and at one point or another they all invited me out. I isolated from 2008-2015 when I lived by myself. I went to my job and did errands and doctors appointments in the community and even had a couple of friends but spent much time on my own.
In 2016 I had a bad relapse and ended up in another board & care home after living independently in society for 20 years. I lived with 30-35 other people in the group home and was forced to be around people all the time and I loved it. I was friendly with some of the people there but had no close friend.
Which brings me up to date. In 2017 I moved out of the board & care and moved into my current apartment where I started isolating again. I had a few opportunities to make friends but I declined. Now I am pretty isolated, I have no friends, and take my breaks and lunch alone at work. I barely see my sister. I’ve come to a crucial point of whether I want to keep isolating or do something about it. I don’t know if I want to keep isolating but I joined a walking/social group. Maybe socializing will be fun again but I fear I won’t talk and I’ll just be relegated to being the lowest person in the group. I am looking forward to attending my first walking group with both dread and hope. I shall see. I just had to get all this off my chest.
im pretty much entirely asocial
That’s a lot of changes. I’ve slowly became less social over time. People move away or get married or I can’t be around cause drugs. These days it’s family, a couple friends, and my day program. I feel kind of settled in atm. If I didn’t have day treatment I’d be screwed. Ive had a few friends pass away recently and a neighbor that I’d hang out with passed as well(crazy how many people I know that have died in the past 3-4 years). I want to meet a woman, but I’m also debating how much I want to socialize.
I am a champion at self isolating. I just do it without thinking. I’m very standoffish. I’ve gotten to where I almost prefer to be alone than be with other people.
I’ve always been quite, though not totally, asocial. Increased socialisation is seen as a fundamental part of the recovery process. From time to time over the years I’ve tried to socialise more. Invariably it’s been a negative experience. I chose to give up on that, after my last attempt in 2018.
It’s hard if you’re a schizophrenic person, and I think even worse- if an autistic and schizophrenic person, to successfully socialise with others. Lots of detrimental things come into play; such as difficulty reading body language, difficulty initiating conversations(that can make you appear aloof and standoffish) etc. Not forgetting the severe social anxiety that is often a product of being a bullied child or teenager.
Why bullied? Being different. In a high % of cases those with late dxed ASD were subjected to such bullying.It’s hard being totally calm ,relaxed, and natural, when the fear of ridicule(and the paranoia that can go with it) is at the forefront of your mind.
I can relate to not talking in groups. I have the same thing. I’m fine with conversing with one or two people, but the larger the group I tend to clam up. I try to work on it, but it’s hard. Talking in groups can be kind of competitive because people are almost fighting to take the word. I’ve never been a competitive person really, maybe that’s why it’s hard.
I have one friend that accepts me as I am. I don’t speak much anymore.
I’m very insecure of talking to people. Mainly because things I want to express comes out wrong. I have good intentions but people seem to think the worst of me. They say I’m very negative.
Socializing takes much energy. I feel drained when I’m talking to people.
So I stopped socializing.
I don’t get a chance to socialize often. When I do it sounds like a typical conversation to me but I get the impression most people want the back and forth to be over. I don’t have the slightest clue why.
About 6 years back - i would be a local in the bar, turning up at 10am and falling out the door at 4pm, under the delusion that my drinking buddys were my freinds.
Trust me they were not. I came to the realisation that the local piss artists are not your mates. They are just interested in a free drink.
Nowadays i isolate by choice. Cos with all the messed up women ive had relationships with - it ALWAYS turned out that they are more interested in the contents of my bank accounts. Usually cos i supported their filthy drug habit.
Maybe i lack the social skills, just to say “NO” and tell them to do one - but when your feeling lonely and vulnerable - a devious woman will get around that by showing you fake affection - almost to groom you so you trust them.
Probably why im a cynical old git now.
I dont want to socialise with the poxy public. Nor go out on a poxy coffee with some university intern thats doing her training at the mental health centre.
Frankly - Bugger off.
My treatment team is always telling me to be more social, to volunteer again. I just don’t want to be around people.
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