I realise this sounds like a delayed discovery in my mid forties
I have just been in my own world
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Yeah, even a smile means a lot to people.
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I believe trauma turned me aloof. I try to be warm toward people, but I’m sad and anxious inside and it just doesn’t come naturally anymore.
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I understand. Even if I have to force a smile I do it to people like the nurses that come here to do my meds etc. Sometimes just that 2 minutes they are here feel like hours because I’m trying to come off as ok.
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I walk around with an idiotic smile on my face. I realized that the anxious scowl I had previously was scaring people. Lol.
I started making myself smile and have been doing it for years now. It actually improves my mood and I mostly get a smile back from people. If I get eye contact, I smile broader and sometimes say “hi”. It’s more positive than negative, and certainly more positive than not paying attention and putting people off.
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I am aloof to a degree and I like people hu r about the same aloofness as me. I think everyone likes different types of people
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I think I’ve pretty much always had a smile even if it’s fake up until recently and it hasn’t made people like me. But now that I’m sad and grumpy and letting it show I think it’s even worse. I’ll try to go back to the friendly smiling thing and see if that helps again. Actually who cares, I don’t need the average joe to like me anyway, it only leads to problems. God what happened to me? I’m losing my mind.
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