I've decided to become more selfish!

[everhopeful]

I’ve been conditioned since birth to be a doormat. Selfish people seem to do better in life anyway.

[FreeLunch]

Good luck with it

[Mr_Hope]

I’m not sure that’s true. Be kind foremost, but switch to the sceptical side when things seem sketchy.

[jukebox]

my spirituality focuses on being selfless…it’s better to be “innocent as doves but shrewd as snakes”…

[everhopeful]

@jukebox

shrewd as snakes

Yes, that’s what I intend to be. In a selfish way.

[anon29983254]

Good idea @everhopeful

[Wave]

Complete selfishness is not ok but some is healthy.
I’ve been walked over for years so I understand

[anon82948922]

There is nothing wrong with prioritizing your own well-being in many situations.

[Mr_Hope]

It really depends what kind of doormat you are. Instead of having welcome written over you, maybe

[Natron]

Don’t be selfish or unselfish just be.

[labratmat]

[anon70814080]

I need to focus a bit more on people. I’m a bit too self-absorbed most of the time. Sometimes I feel trapped in my own mind, and I don’t know if it’s because of the schizophrenia, or if it’s because I might be on the autism spectrum…

[Kxev]

Good for you @everhopeful

Take care of you first. I say no all the time. And I don’t talk to people I don’t want to talk to.

[StarCrazy]

Does anyone think this is a common occurrence with people with MH issues?
I have had phases when I feel like I have been to soft too.
I have one friend with SZ who is always getting “defriended” or people are mean to him for no reason.

Remember you owe your kindness to no one. You don’t have to be kind to people unless you want to.