Arizona by my older brother. end of may. for my niece’s high school graduation party. I should probably go but will probably just stay here.
was thinking I would just stay here and send some money and a congratulations card with mom and dad to give to my niece.
I have a few reasons for not wanting to go. I don’t like to fly and I don’t have REAL ID yet. and I should tend my garden even though it will be ok without me for a few days. and also I’m embarrassed to see her mom’s side of the family. One time I stayed with her uncle mike when I was homeless in phoenix. i’m still kind of ashamed of myself for accepting his hospitality and am not looking forward to revisiting that situation should I go. that’s it. what do you think? o and also it will probably be hot in the desert.
o and the last reason I don’t want to go is she’s dating some kid that is going to ohio state to play quarterback. my brother fawns over the guy. I don’t want to meet him, I know it’s not going to work out with him in college between them. and it makes me uncomfortable trying to be nice to the guy and having to talk about sports.
Well, everybody reading that is thinking: it’s not about you. It’s about your niece and her having one of the biggest milestones in a kids life and she would feel good if her uncle made the effort to be there. You cite some valid reasons for not going, but you will have to wrestle with your conscience and make the right decision.
I think you are thinking of all the reasons you shouldn’t go and aren’t thinking of all the reasons you should go.
You’ll probably have a better time than you think you will, and it’s good to see your family. They probably want to see you! If they know your situation they probably care and worry about you like any family would, and coming to visit them would be nice for everyone.
I think you are reading into the boyfriend thing too much. Who cares about that. She’s young and that’s normal for people to go through the dating phase.
I think you should go based on the reasons you are listing for not going. Not good enough reasons not to go IMO.
I believe it is up to you. If you would feel uncomfortable and think you may have a hard time dealing, stay home. Just because people want to see you isn’t your problem. Do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable.
that’s true. I will probably go. but honestly I resent my older brother and sister for moving across the country and still trying to act like family is important to them. they chose life over family.
im here spending quality time with the family every week and they just come for holidays and summer cookouts on rare occasions. but I won’t hold that resentment against my niece.
well maybe I won’t be going. dad says I have to pay for my own ticket. I don’t have any extra money. he’s going to look into flights and get back to me.
When my middle kids graduated both times I was in the psych ward and not doing good. So I was not able to to get a pass or discharge to go. I feel guilty about it and I think they hold it against me even though they haven’t voiced it to me. I think you need to do what is best for you.
I avoid social get togethers specially where I’m expected to talk.
Not that it’s “about me” but I know from experience I suffer to much and can get awful symptoms and to not be able to go to my home or room or get away when needed is too much for me.
I get so awkward and can go mute around my own family even and get fit like things from all the tension it can be a type of hysteria sometimes too.
I have difficulties understanding what they are saying and the list goes on.
There’s a biiig party at the house I’m living at today but I plan on hiding in my room the whole time n don’t know if I even dare go out for food.
I think quiet a few of them font like me or think they are better than me and superior and think I should salute them and be bossed around by them.
Last time I tried having dinner with them they and their children said they are all to be saluted by me and I’m the low life who should …
Anyway it was a unacceptable way o treat me so I left before dinner.
I even feel awkward around my sister.
Not many people I can be with …
I don’t think I want to fly again either .
I got a bit scared last time when it was bumpy.
You list understandable reasons.
Hope you will do well whatever you decide.
Staying home and caring for the plants is no bad either .
