I feel like confessing… I am attracted to intelligent women. But sometimes also to, well, pretty stupid ones. And it is not as if I don’t care, sometimes it is precisely their intelligence or lack thereof that attracts me. I feel like I have to feel like it is wrong to like someone for their stupidity, and that it is right to like someone for their smarts. Hence my phrasing in terms of confessing. Any thoughts?
I used to be attracted to stupidity. Then I got into a relationship with one of them.
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Different levels of intelligence can balance out the life experience.
The deep and immovably serious types are great for lengthy discussions about the self and existence while the more light-hearted(stupid) folk are more fun to let loose and just try to enjoy the moment and humor…
I myself am always more attracted to the serious and deep type folk… The chaos of people who don’t have an internal code and just chase highs and humor and momentary self-fulfillment bother me.
Still a sweet chick who stays “in line” wouldn’t have to be too intelligent to be attractive to me. However I do see an underlying confliction in that. Keeping her in my life just because she is trustworthy and fulfills the role of me needing a woman… meanwhile inside I’m still seeking out deeper conversations with other people… in the long term this can be very belittling to the woman as she might begin to feel stupid and inadequate in balancing her relevance to the relationship beyond just being a walking sex-hole…
hah made myself laugh on that one…
I wouldn’t feel bad about it. You are a good thoughtful man and I’m sure you take care of the women in your life.
(I’m on the opposite end of this… the girl I like most keeps herself single so she can chose what kind of experience she wants to have on a whim… at least that’s what I’ve misconstrued from the things she said. Leaves me trying to lighten up and live more in the moment in hopes to show her that I can be more fun than the “SZ man who needs a therapist girlfriend.” I’ve already turned away from seeking that from her, but with the physical distance between us it hasn’t amounted to much change yet.)
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Do you like the feeling of superiority? I get attracted to inferior hoomans because of that.
Challenged by the equals and superiors than me.
Oh well…
A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool.
I think the same applies to attitude: Arrogance and Modesty.
Sadly, I am the fool who think myself to be wise, and the arrogance.
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The thought of that did cross my mind, and it could be, but it works rather subtly if it’s the case. For I don’t exactly go about laughing about it and thinking “oh I’m so much better than you” or anything like that…
I gave it some more thought and it now seems to me that it may not quite be the stupidity that attracts me, but some other traits that, in practice, seem to go along with it more often than with smarts.
Traits like simplicity, naivety, carefreeness… smarts seem to come with complexity, cynicism, and problems all around. I don’t think any of those combinations are necessarily so, but seem to go together in practice often.
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I can relate to all of that.
It’s also a good way to have meaningless flings. Incompatibility generally doesn’t last long from my experience.
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But anyway, it is okay to be attracted to stupidity. Just depends on the stupidity. There kinds of stupid that I find repulsive
Aint that the truth…
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I have something like stockholm syndrome. you might have a variation.
Similarly I used to be attracted to flighty girls. No longer.
I still like them a bit ditsy and with funny voices… not sure why.
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I like the traditional values woman. That’s my type 
And be able to be silly and also have a decent conversation about turtles 
As long as the person is not too close minded then I’m cool
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I’m fond of female breasts. I’ve never asked a pair of them to take an IQ test.
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I don’t think someone can be fully stupid… if they suck at math they might be terrific basket weavers.
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The secret to figuring out women?
You treat a whore like a lady, and a lady like a whore.
I like ditzy women. Probably cause I’m half ditz myself.
Stupidity is like graffiti on an ignorance wall.
Not sure how to respond to that… Kind of try to respect all Ladies until they demonstrate it is unwarranted.
Mrs. Pixel gets treated like a Queen because she very much is.
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It’s an old saying I picked up along the way. Apologies to the ladies of the forum if it was crude.
I don’t believe what I wrote…was just repeating words I had read.
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I think opposites attract and then that keeps interesting.
The mystery of how another person ticks can be a lifelong discovery.
Then opposites balance each other out.
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Play with stupidity but have kids with intelligence.