I have decided to forgive all bad that has happened in my life and also forget all these bad events. Do you think this is good?
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depends on if your really over it or just want to be. lots of emphasis is put on forgiveness its holy god like, however its easy to say I forgive someone but to actually feel it is different and you might have to go through more…hurt more anger to get there.
I have taken my position to forgive and forget. When I was a child I was thrown at with knives and a razor blade was used to cut my finger and so on, I still have scars f.ex. in the corner of my eye where a knife landed once. But I forgive and forget, but amusing is that a person who did all these acts does not really want to have anything to do with me. They have advanced in their lives and I am nobody.
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Did they really advance in life? or just turn tail and avoid you because they know they were wrong?
I don’t think anyone who did things like throw knives at you would have the power to determine your worth. If nothing else, it sounds like they feared you were more than them.
Should you forgive? Sure. It is more about letting go of something that can’t be changed.
Should you forget? Sure. It does no good remembering past hurts and isn’t helpful anymore.
Should you ever trust this person again? not on your life.
Rehashing old hurtful events makes you live them all over again, but without the chance to change it. Not a eay to move forward if your stuck in an endless loop.
Easier said than done, and I should take my own stinking advice too.
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Yes, it is good, it is necessary… as far as the forgetting part, your brain won’t actually forget it, but you can put it in a part of your mind that it doesn’t bother you and you don’t think about it very often. I have a few things/people I’ve had to do that with.
Best to put it in Gods hands. I can think of 3 people right off that seriously crossed me and/or my family…I/we were mad, then forgave, let it go, put it in Gods hands. each situation also could have been handled by calling the cops and we didn’t.
By their own hands they are in Gods hands, literally…and I will say this, every one of them presented a real physical danger to me or my family, one really serious…and every one of them was reckless themselves.
karma, you reap what you sow, or just their own recklessness caught up with them? I’ll leave that for God to know as well.
So yeah, forgive…
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YES.
assburger that’s the ■■■■we need in the world.
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THEN THERE"S (KILL EM ALL LET GOD SORT EM OUT)/.
is that how you wanna choose though??
Always forgive, never forget. I believe the saying goes. I think it’s impossible to forget, but you can try in our case I believe.
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Let the strange works be known to our creator, father and goddess alike.
Or whether it was two men, or two women, if shock would spike.
We have the world and universe by the tail but they don’t get it from the beginning.
We needed a world of scholars, (there isn’t a war we’re winning).
The beginning was so bitter, so childish and rude.
Everythingwe say may be misconstrued.
But we don’t give up from a little website,
We share together and put up our own (rights fight).
I think the idea is not to dwell on past offenses. Whether you forgive them or not, you’d better not trust them.
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Burying problems warps the character. Letting the conflicts surface and dealing with them on a mature level is what I spend a lot of my time doing.
I think it’s good,probably it’s the turning point in your life…
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I’m getting to the age where I just forget and the mood passes away.
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Forgiveness?
It’s not good the way that people view it really.
The lack of condemnation, like an old building(us), or eternal punishment and things like that.
But judgement is a good thing and would actually benefit everyone, even the ones committing whatever crime.
But if a guy walks up and smacks you and you just ignore it then no it’s not good at all, it’s not good for you or the one doing the smacking.
Eye for an eye is a thing of love. If you serve it then you need, yes need, to eat it.
We always get the definitions wrong though, forgiveness never meant what we thought or imagined i should say. Foregiveness was only having to do with nothing eternal, eternal condemnation or punishement, eternal this or that, forever this or that. But judgement, equal and opposite, is good for everyone.
Pay up. You like to get paid then why don’t you like to pay? And pay in full, whether good or bad, pay in full.
You are right that I should not forget, but how could I when I have physical scars to prove these crimes, but what made the matters worse in my childhood was that I was told to lie to teachers and other people how I had got wounds and so I had to protect people who had harmed me. How could I ever forget this.
Don’t forget just forgive.
Yes it is…Indeed very much…Forgive and forget…In short just move on…I hope you would find the benefits of this.
In a perfect scenario yes. But easier said than done.
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There is much more to this story, in the beginning of the 1990s I tried to escape from the society where these crimes were commited against me earlier, but these fuckheads followed me and they are with the military intelligence who spied on me many years in America and so on, so there is so much more to this story, I can forgive, but I probably never forget.