I am really sorry what has happened to you. How can someone be so cruel. But then there is the relief that there is no more such torture to you now…I guess mj you should forgive them and try to forget as well. If you believe in God then better leave the matter in His hands…
These ■■■■ heads were so good in spying and following that when I 12 years ago traveled from one continent to another and then traveled on trains without any digital records from one nation to another that they knew exactly when I had arrived at one city of one nation.
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Carrying resentment is somewhat akin to walking around shirtless with a porcupine tucked up under each arm with the intent to throw them at whoever you don’t like. You may eventually bean someone with a porcupine, but you’re going to suffer all the while you’re waiting for your opportunity.
I have learned that there are better ways to spend my time.
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I never exactly forget- what I have experienced has made me stronger. When I can, instead of forgetting, I make amends. I just want to set things right with some people, and I do- running into peers from junior high at a bar and cheersing with them, being civil and not holding grudges, letting people change, just as I have changed.
So in my case, I cannot just exactly forget. I am what I have experienced and I am doing too well to dramatically change the way I view life. Forgiving people is good, do that, but forgetting is not my realm of expertise because I am only 21 years old.
That is an excellent way of putting it. And even when you ‘throw’ the porcupine you are going to get a bunch of quills in your hand, and the quills are not easy to remove…they must be pulled painfully out…
Used to have dog that never learned not to attack porcupines and get his nose and mouth full of quills. I also have been poked by them a couple times…ouch.
I forgive, but I do not forget, because I have a visual memory that shows me how f.ex. my left hand finger was cut with a razor blade in the 1970s. I actually still see how bones of my finger showed up. It is good to forgive, but to prevent any similar events one must remember.
It depends on the situation - some things I have a difficult time letting go of - I sometimes do not forgive or forget so easily.
If someone really tried to screw me and there is a pattern of repeated malicious behavior towards me or others close to me, I do not forgive and never forget.
I may pretend that everything is fine between us, but in my heart I never forgive or forget - I know its not the way to go, but this is my nature
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Yeah or holding a grudge is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. It only hurts yourself
I forgive quickly and easily but I never forget, hehe.
It’s certainly a good creed to live by though, I think.