My uncle called the other day. Asked my mum if I found my job and whether I’m keeping myself occupied and going out alone. I wish they wouldn’t stick their nose in. Im just never going to be good enough for them.
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My solution to that problem is to not care what other people think.
You should try that one day.
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I think it’s cos I care and they know which is why they say these things.
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I would imagine your uncle just doesn’t understand the reality for most people in our situation.
For a lot of regular people who have a break from work etc - they get over the depression (or whatever it is) and go back to work and their life carries on like nothing. But it is not as simple as that for us.
Some of my family are exactly the same and my Dad especially is always expecting me to turn a corner and start living the life he expects of me (despite the fact I’ve never wanted to work since getting ill and its been 15 years now).
I agree with @TheFountainPen that you need to be able to make up in your own mind that you can’t live for others’ expectations. If getting a job isn’t realistic for you - don’t put pressure on yourself to do it. Don’t feel bad for not doing it if it isn’t something you want for yourself. Ultimately the expectation is on them and not on you.
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The proper way to address any relative who is not a spouse or a child rhymes with cluck and ewe. Get those tossers out of your life.
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He’s end of life but there’s more nosy relatives. Once I’m out of here they won’t ever see my face.
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People in my community generally don’t get mental health …it’s really sad… I need to stop caring what they say I completely agree with everyone here.
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I try and find it easier to think of it that they simply lack the capacity to understand your situation and so will always see things differently.
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