In-law issues

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Do you get along with your in-laws?

I think the only reason I get along with my in-laws is because they have to be nice to me or they’ll upset my husband… but besides that I feel like they wish my husband and his baby mom were still together/prefer her over me…

  • My mother in law still hangs out with my step sons mom, pays for half her stuff, has photos of her allllll over her fridge (none of me anywhere)
  • His family still has his sons mom on social media and like and comment on all her stuff. Like his grandma will comment on her selfies “how pretty” (I only have his aunt and cousin on my social)
  • When we went to Florida his grandma was showing us photos of him and his baby mom together🙄 even his grandpa was like “okay, enough reminiscing…” hinting for her to stop.
  • Another time in Florida his grandma was like “remember when we took blank here, you were soo excited” talking about taking his ex somewhere…

Ugh. I’m struggling. It makes me feel like i will never be accepted by his family, even if I have this baby. I’m actually crying right now, and I never cry since my diagnosis. I bring these things up to my husband and let him know it bothers me and he just blows it off.

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i don’t have in-laws. i’m just by myself living with my parents.

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sorry to hear that it’s so hard on you… i think i would have issues with it too. Must be hard that they don’t really accept you…

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Thanks @lekkerhondje

Maybe I should just be grateful I have in laws… but I’m not.

Yeah, it’s frustrating and upsetting…

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yea especially that they have all those pics of the other woman and not of you… that sounds really rough to handle… i’d feel unwelcome too…

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Definitely… it makes me uncomfortable and feel not welcomed.

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That situation really sucks. I’m sorry @anon61987434 .

Some people have no sensitivity. Although his grandpa might.

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I would say give it some time. It takes time to build memories and bonds. Don’t give up. Don’t think just because they are fond of the memories of her that they can’t also make new ones with you. Try to be yourself and don’t be jealous. In time pictures of you and your family will be all over the fridge.

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It’s alright, thanks for the condolences @everhopeful

Yeah, I did like his grandpa… I think we got a long more than me and his grandma…

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Yeah but it’s kind of hard to build memories when they live on the opposite side of the country… and they’re getting old…

I honestly don’t think I even want to be with my husband anymore because of this.

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Don’t let that come between you and your husband. Don’t let what other people say, think and do come between you.

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Human,

I’ve got to be honest.

Your marriage sounds shaky.

Your husband is being hateful to you despite the fact that you’re pregnant with his child,

Your step son treats you poorly,

And your in laws are clearly stuck in the past and have no respect for you.

Personally, I’d be figuring a way out of there.

These are deep problems and I don’t feel like some of them are fixable easily.

You and your husband, possibly his family too,

Need counseling.

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You’re husband should be more empathetic. I’m sorry he’s not. My in-laws from my previous marriage were a nightmare. Too many problems to even discuss here. But I completely understand what you’re going through. I don’t have great advice other than to be your kind self and prove them wrong

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Exactly…

My husband is also a d*ck so there’s that… and I’ve only said on here about a quarter of the rude stuff he says to me.

One of my friends suggested counseling but I highly doubt my husband would go for it…

I told him last night either his family changes or they’re never seeing the baby or we’re getting a divorce… and he just ignored the whole thing.

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I’m sorry. I hope you don’t have to divorce him, but my ex was mean to me and so were his parents. I left him. I have a great husband now

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My mother-in-law is a sociopath.

But out of respect for my wife…in over 30 years…I’ve never said ‘boo’ to her.

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Him just ignoring a statement like that is not a good sign.

If I were in your situation,

I would consider leaving him.

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Yeah, I feel like my husbands family is fake nice to me cause they have to get along with EVERYONE…

I’m glad you’re in a better relationship now pianogal…

I don’t know if I will have to divorce my husband but the option is always there…

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I agree with what @GoldenRex said, you post quite often about the crap you go through everyday and how unhappy you are with the situation, my philosophy is life’s too short and unpredictable to stay unhappy, time to move on, just an opinion of course but either way I hope things settle down, dealing with stress and sz at the same time is a whole other struggle.

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I never married, but I have a brother-in-law and two aunt-in-laws I get along with.

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