This has nothing to do with anything on this site, but I am taking something very personally because it was meant in a very personal way. It might make my life miserable, but if it is the last thing I do I am going to make people be accountable in this bizzare situation.
Don’t do anything you’ll later regret… things tend to blow over and turn to the right course… give it some time.
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It probably will in that case. Calm down, count to 10. Avoid the associated stress. Sometimes these things happen and you just have to suck it up and move on.
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You sound as vindictive as I am. I personally only do this kind of thing in retaliation if there’s little to no risk for me.
It’s not easy to let things go… if they have been building it’s even harder.
I hope you feel better soon… and I hope you can enjoy you day despite the situation
Sometimes having a good time is the best way to let people know that you aren’t going to deal with them any more.
Best wishes
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I have calmed down, but I still think I am going to have to be hard in this situation or people will continue to take advantage of me if I don’t. They’ve already made my life incredibly miserable.
I take everything my in laws tell me very personally and it’s exhausting
CRAP GIRL! I’m so sorry about whatever upset you but you got to really handle ‘bounces off of me and sticks to you’ by not getting angry sometimes about screwed, even f—ked. They will mess you up for confronting sometimes and you just got to take it silently. I see NO point in assertiveness in MANY situations as someone who will publicly humiliate you will screw you again and again, especially males just have to avoid them and thank them for the warning message! REALLY MUST THINK TWICE ABOUT CONFRONTING, reduce your risks by making the situation right for you without acknowledging things and just avoid anyone who would do this without much discussion except with spouse/mate. If you are working with this kind of situation, can result in fired without unemployment even in excellent jobs they hid a GOTCHA STUNT MAN. Work on changing departments or transfer to another office to get away from screw-yous.
If you’re not financially or otherwise dependent of people who are hurting you, speak for yourself! Don’t let them put you down, don’t swallow their negativity, speak it out in the most possible calm way and remember, the goal is not to beat anyone’s (pseudo)arguments but to feel yourself standing for yourself.
I’M NOT A GIRL!!! GET THAT STRAIGHT!!! I’m trying to figure out the best approach. It is infuriating the way they are ■■■■■■■ with me.
You sound very upset. I get the feeling, I still haven’t got over my mum’s words, and it damaged our relationship forever - it is not same and never will.
Really its up to you to figure out the best way to deal with it, for me, it was saying out what I wanted to say ( felt better for a short time) and limit if not cut off the communication for the sake of saving my nerves.